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Sitting & Kneeling Positions & Techniques

1 Sitting Sex Positions

If you're starting out in your sex life, one sex position you may not have tried is sitting. It seems to be a position that couples don't use until they're more experienced - or perhaps it's one that helps to relieve the boredom or sense of routine that can creep into a sexual relationship after a while.

Whatever, it's not a very popular or common position. In one survey, it transpired that only 1.2% of couples said this was their favorite sex position, and only 5% used it regularly.

A restful way to make love

And if you look up "sitting sex positions" on the search engines, there isn't much useful information. Why on earth is that? Perhaps the assumption is that everyone knows how to do it! case you don't, here comes an explanation.

You can either sit facing each other or you can sit facing away from each other, in which case the woman can thrust backwards onto her man's erection like a sophisticated version of rear entry sex!

This is a technique where the man is treated to the sight of her buttocks framing his erection as he watches himself penetrating her. And most men find this way of having sex to be very exciting....


Sitting sex offers several benefits. A firm chair where both partners can get their legs over the sides and their feet onto the floor gives more support than a bed, so there's more stability as you make love.

This technique means the woman has more control over the depth of penetration and the pace of lovemaking.

That means sex can equally well be spontaneous and passionate or slow and loving; in this sitting position, especially if the woman is facing her partner, sex can be gentle, romantic and cuddly, with plenty of kissing, touching and caressing, or it can be fast, exciting and rollicking with passion.

It's harder to make love in an armchair; the woman will have to squat with her thighs folded if she faces her man, unless he is so slumped that she can sit astride his thighs with her feet on the floor.

An alternative technique here is for her to sit facing away from her man, so that she basically sits in his lap and the couple enjoy a sitting form of rear entry sex.

This can be very exciting and erotic: she can wriggle her hips and pelvis to enhance both her own and her partner's pleasure, either she or he can get to her clitoris, and he can enjoy the feel of her buttocks in his lap.

The third major sitting sex position is for the couple to sit on a bed - the man has his legs over the edge, while his partner sits on his lap facing towards him, her legs clasped behind his waist with her feet resting on the bed.

This way of making love has ample scope for the couple to caress, kiss and explore each other's bodies as passionately as if they were in the early stages of their love affair.

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Sitting Sexual Positions

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basic positions - sitting sex

Most difficult of all is the variation where the man and the woman both sit on the bed, clasping each other with their legs around the waist.

This requires a fair degree of flexibility and may not be possible for all couples. Indeed, even those who can manage it may wish to have some kind of back support. Obviously the woman will be sitting in the man's lap.

One of the advantages of this technique is that you can adopt an almost meditative pose and extend sexual intercourse for as long as you wish - small pelvic movements will keep him erect, and her aroused - while you center your sexual energy centers and visualize the flow of energy around your bodies. The higher the woman holds her knees, effectively the shorter her vagina will become.

Let's remember that for almost all men (and many women) sex is a vial part of falling in love with each other. It's important to find sexual positions which allow you to express your love for each other. These are the positions which allow intimacy, which go beyond mere sexual satisfaction.

basic positions - sitting sex

Face-to-face seated sex

Here the man sits on an ordinary chair and the woman sits astride him. This position allows reasonably deep penetration, but there are other advantages which no other position permits.

If the woman, having placed her hands on her man's shoulders, leans very slightly back, he is able to caress her breasts with his mouth; all her most erotically sensitive areas, particularly on her back, are within reach of his hands; while her clitoris is easily accessible to the stimulation of his fingers.

Large couples will find this sexual technique most helpful in obtaining deep penetration.

In general, sitting positions may not give as much sensation as some of the more traditional man on top or woman on top positions, but the naughty thrill of sitting sex may make up for this.

If you happen to be kissing and cuddling in a chair, it's not hard to make the transition into full-blown sex, partly or fully clothed, with a few adjustments to your position.

Once again, the partner on top - generally the woman - is the one who has the most opportunity to move and control the pace of sex; though in some cases the man will be able to move and can help his partner to move by lifting her with his hands under her buttocks - which they are both likely to find rather erotic.

basic positions - sitting sex

One of the nicest things about face to face sex is the closeness and extensive body contact that you can enjoy; in fact, this is what helps to give sitting sex a strong feeling of intimacy and connection.

Of course, it's arguable that many of the positions we have described on other pages fall into the category of sitting sex: for example, does "sitting sex" include a position where the woman is sitting on top of her man as he lies on the bed?

We believe it doesn't matter. There are no hard and fast rules about sex - and indeed different categories may serve no useful purpose other than to satisfy our wish to classify things.

More About Sitting Sex Positions

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Sex PositionsSitting sex positions tend to be restful and gentle. A couple can engage with each other emotionally while they enjoy the pleasure of resting with his penis inside her. Alternatively, she may wish to ride him, either gently or fast, though she may get tired quite quickly if her leg muscles are not used to the exercise.

A big advantage of sex in the sitting position is that the couple can rest whenever they wish, perhaps kissing and cuddling until they are ready to resume thrusting. It's also easy to switch from sitting sex to sex in just about any other position.


 This is a very arousing sexual position for both men and women alike. The man can take a rest from being the dominant partner during sex and allow the woman to take charge. She can experience what it's like to be in control of the pace and depth of thrusting, which means she gets to satisfy herself as she wishes.

If, for example, she rubs or grinds her clitoris on his penis or pubic mound, she can probably reach orgasm without too much difficulty.


There are many ways to adapt sex in the sitting position to provide different sensations and sexual experiences for the couple.

Each variation will have its particular attractions according to the finer elements of what turns on each man and woman. In the picture shown above, if she were to lie back so she were riding him in a squatting position, this would become the classic woman on top position.


This variation allows the man to reach around his partner and fondle her breasts or to kiss the back of her neck. He can also easily reach her clitoris, something that is not possible in the position shown above.




There's something wanton and sexy about the position that our female model has adopted in this photograph. Her legs are wide apart, suggesting a desire for him to enter her as she plays with her clitoris, though his ability to thrust will be limited by her weight.

The movements of the couple during sex in this position sex are much more under her control than his. If he were to lie back, this would be the position known as the Reverse Cowgirl, a name whose origin is not hard to imagine!


For men: Another face to face sexual position is possible if your woman's bottom is slim, your stomach muscles are in trim and your penis half to three-quarters of an inch or more above average, though the slimmer you are the less need there is of extra penis length.

You sit on a pillow on the floor with your legs stretched out and as wide apart as they will go, your torso slanting back with its weight taken by your arms stretched out behind you, your hands resting on the floor. (Alternatively, your shoulders can rest against a wall.)

Your woman gets astride you, you put your penis in her, and she puts one of her hands on each of your shoulders. Together you both draw up your knees, she almost as far as they will go, you about halfway. You then put a hand on each of her shoulders.

In this position you can rock slowly backward and forward together until you both achieve orgasm. Your penis will have gone little farther than an inch or two inside your partner, so you both get the special sensations when the muscles at the vagina entrance are rubbed, but the top of the shaft of the penis does come into contact with the clitoris and the vulval depression, which can feel very good for the woman.

Even if your penis is not long enough to enter the vagina at all, you can both experience very intense orgasms as a result of the penis-friction with vulva and clitoris. Some people try this position for sexual intercourse on the bed, but the floor provides a firmer base and better sense of balance.


2 Kneeling Sex Techniques

There aren't any rules about how to enjoy yourselves during sex: indeed, there's a lot to be said for a simple philosophy of "if it feels good, do it".

With that in mind, here are some suggestions, in the guise of photos, about how you might enjoy the more adventurous forms of sexual intercourse, among which I'd include kneeling sex positions.


sex positions

One of the possible advantages of the photos shown here is that the man can manipulate his position in relation to his partner so that she enjoys the maximum G spot stimulation.

This can add greatly to her pleasure. I'd guess that you have to be fairly uninhibited to enjoy these positions, since they expose you completely to your partner's gaze, and they involve a fair amount of romping around in pretty unconventional sex positions.

Finally, I came across the so-called Kneeling Ball Sex Position in the outer reaches of the internet, and I thought I'd describe it here for you.

In this the position the woman lies on her side as though she was going to curl up into a ball.

The man is kneeling, facing the woman's back. He penetrates her from behind, while he's kneeling and she's sort-of curled up into a ball.

He can thrust from his hips, though the woman can move somewhat as well. If you're into power play, this is a good technique since one partner is naturally subordinate and one is naturally dominant and in control.

The man can change the angle and direction of penetration so he stimulates his partner's clitoris and G spot.

The woman move her legs in and out of the ball (i.e. straighten them) to change the sensations for her man.

And her man can give a lot of loving attention to his woman as she lies on the bed.


More about kneeling sex positions

his classic rear entry position is very exciting for the man, but it may be difficult for you both to remain stable if you are making love on a bed. If possible, a better option is for the man to stand at the side of the bed while his partner presents her vulva to him whilst kneeling on the bed.

The hard rear-entry position thrusting which can excite many women by hitting their G-spot may not be possible if you are both balancing on the bed.

However, if you can remain safely upright, it may be even more exciting for the man if his partner lowers her head. This has overtones of submissiveness, and/or will allow him to pull her hair, which some women like.
he more she lowers her head, the tighter her vagina will become, which can add different sensations and greater pleasure for both partners.
If the woman moves her head around the couple can kiss as shown here. The man can also reach his partner's clitoris more easily than he can in the sexual positions shown above.
If she faces away from her man, and kneels in a more upright position while he takes her from behind, he can fondle her breasts and has more access to kiss her neck and shoulders. He will not be able to do much thrusting since the couple are balanced rather precariously!

To get the full benefit of this position, try having sex on the floor while facing a wall, so that she can brace herself as her man thrusts.

This may also be uncomfortable if the guy's erection is not at the right angle. Stop and try something different if it is uncomfortable for either of you!

This is a position the couple are likely to find themselves in near the start of lovemaking. It is good for kissing, fondling, holding and then moving into oral sex.

If you want to enjoy penetration, however, the photo below shows a sex position which naturally emerges from the foreplay shown on the left.

When a couple take the position shown here, she can easily reach down to play with her partner's penis and balls.

Again, stability may be an issue, and sex may be easier on a soft floor covering, like a woolen rug lying on a hard floor. Nonetheless, this is a very exciting position and can be great fun for a couple whose bodies are similarly proportioned. Otherwise, penetration can be difficult.

The sexual position shown above naturally segues into this one as she leans back with her man supporting her.

She needs to support herself with her arms - see the sex position photograph to see how that works - but if he has a hard upright erection she is going to get potentially exquisite stimulation on her G-spot as she leans back.

Unfortunately he may find it rather tricky to thrust effectively while he is supporting her like this. As always, the golden rule is to try sex in this position and see if it works for you!

It's also possible for the woman to ride her partner's penis if she takes the position shown here during sex. He must lean back to balance her weight: if he leans back far enough, she will not need to use one hand behind her as depicted here to support herself.
She can then give sex an added thrill by riding up and down his cock - this has the benefit of putting her in charge of the pace and timing of his orgasm and perhaps her own, if she can reach a high enough level of arousal to achieve orgasm as she rides him.

(Though this may, of course, depend on how long he can keep going before he comes!)

These are all variations which emerge naturally from the sitting sex position shown above. As you can see, the position is a good one for kissing, caressing and even gazing into each other's eyes. He has a superb opportunity to fondle her breasts if she leans back slightly.
And, should raw passion take over, he can lower her onto the bed and the couple can complete their lovemaking in classic man on top position with hard and/or deep penile thrusting as they choose!

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