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Whether you like to use oral sex as part of foreplay or prefer to take it all the way to orgasm, whether you like to enjoy it regularly or just once in a while as a special treat, oral sex can certainly be one of the greatest pleasures of a romantic relationship.

Is there anything to say on the subject of relationships that hasn't been said before?

Perhaps not, but there are one or two things to remember which can make it a more comfortable or pleasurable experience.

First of all, a few words about positions. There aren't really any special positions for oral sex - unless you count the ones which help to avoid neck strain for men who are pleasuring their partner orally.

And that's an entirely serious comment, for men who like to bring their partner to orgasm this way can feel obliged to continue as their partner nears orgasm, even if they are in some discomfort.

One answer is to raise her hips slightly on a pillow, so that you can get to her vulva more easily.

Another possibility is to have her lie on the bed with her legs over the edge so that you can get between her legs as you kneel on the floor.

Of course, finding a good position for oral sex isn't really difficult, but what you might need is inspiration to find some new ideas for doing it that will please both you and your partner. Accordingly, we've included a selection of oral sex position pictures below.

For women giving oral sex (fellatio) to their man getting into position tends to be less difficult, since a man's penis is much more accessible in every way than a woman's vulva, whether he's standing, lying, or sitting.

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Oral sex: cunnilingus

Cunnilingus - oral sex by him on her - making it great!

A lot of women would agree that oral sex - cunnilingus - is more important to them than intercourse.

Why? Not because this is something to diminish the male ego, but because oral sex produces orgasms.

While an average or slightly larger than average penis might be nice to look at and play with, oral sex really rocks most women's boats - and a man who takes the time to deliver it well and knows what he's doing is a man who's never going to go short of loving intercourse with his partner.

That's a great reason to keep offering her cunnilingus, guys!

Good oral sex for a woman means time, enthusiasm for the act, a complete lack of squeamishness on the part of the giver, and a desire to please your partner.

Oral pleasuring is a real and practical display of your love for your partner. Whether man or woman, orally pleasuring your partner shows them that you love them. For a woman, it is a tool which can help her make a man realise how much he loves her, that she is prepared to do this intimate act for him. For a man, it is both a sign of his sexual pleasure and his love for his partner that he is prepared to forego his own pleasure to give her the excitement and fulfilment she desires.

Having said that, considering what a turn-on cunnilingus is for most men, it's not exactly an arduous piece of work for most men!

If you're a man giving cunnilingus, start by getting your position right for oral sex. You must be comfortable, especially if your partner is looking to get her orgasm from this kind of stimulation, and if it might take a while for her to get there.

The best way to avoid a crick in the neck is to stick a pillow under her bottom so that her hips are raised slightly.

Make certain before you start that your neck is not going to develop a crick so you have to stop at the point where she's getting really aroused.

If you have a spare finger handy (as you should have), then you'll probably want to slip it into her vagina at some point.

Laci Green On Cunnilingus

If you know what the signs are (vaginal ballooning and the muscles around the entrance gripping your finger) you can tell when she's on the downhill slope to her orgasm.

If you know the feel of her G spot, you'll know when to increase clitoral stimulation (when the G spot feels rough and ridged) and when to add more movement and pressure internally (when the G spot feel swollen and smooth).

It makes things a bit easier if she opens her legs or pulls her knees up towards her chest - though that might be a bit difficult to maintain for long periods.

It's essential that she's relaxed, because tension and discomfort will really get in the way of her orgasm.

For a really unusual experience, try having her lying on her side while he lies between her legs, carefully positioned between her thighs with her upper leg draped loosely around his neck.

She may need to pull back the skin above her clit to give him clear access.

She sits on a sofa, her legs resting on the edge of the sofa or his shoulders, while he kneels between her legs and licks her clitoris.

If she pulls her legs back, her anus is exposed for play, and her perineum is available for him to massage as well. This gives great access to the whole area.

She adopts a position in which you might have rear entry sex, kneeling on all fours, with her chest supported by cushions, while he kneels behind her and presses his face into her exposed vulva.

Alternatively, if she dispenses with the cushions and kneels on all fours on a bed with her bottom facing him, he can slide under her and lick her clitoris from behind.

He may need a pillow behind his head to get to the right height.

He lies on his back on the bed or floor and has his knees bent upwards at angle with his feet flat on the bed or the floor.

She kneels over him, then leans backwards so her weight rests against his knees.

Her vagina will be located over his mouth, giving him easy access, and she will be wide open to the attentions of his tongue.

Advice for men! How best to sexually stimulate a woman orally

Not all women find it easy to express their sexual needs. Unfortunately, the woman herself is certainly the only one who really knows what she wants!

So make sure that you signal it's OK for her to express her desires and instruct you in what she wants as sex progresses - her inhibitions will come down as she gets more aroused.

You can do this by asking her right at the start what she wants, so she knows she has "permission" to express her needs later.

Of course, this section isn't about how to arouse your partner - you can do that with all the things you know about foreplay.

This section is about how to give great oral pleasure

The key rules are - keep it wet, keep it gentle, and keep it consistent.

You know that a quick hand job will always get you off, but for a woman sexual stimulation is different - for her to find cunnilingus enjoyable, it needs to be consistent, gentle at first and possibly even until she's very near her orgasm, at which point you might speed up the stimulation and increase the pressure to tip her over into orgasm, and you need to keep stimulating her until her orgasm is complete.

Of course, good sex - both oral sex and vaginal intercourse - depends on more than good technique - intimacy, love, respect, trust and so on come to mind here - but knowing what to do and how best to do it in bed can certainly help make your love life better!

And, as you know, when you've been with someone a while, it often needs a bit of bedroom skill and sexual excitement to stoke up the old fires of passion!

There's another important point here too! That good sex also depends on communication - a point especially true for oral sex.

When you don't have the initial fiery passion of a relationship's early days to keep your sexual interest high, then you need to let your partner know what you'd like and what works for you in bed.

If they simply have no idea whether or not their sexual techniques are pushing your buttons, then sex isn't likely to work very well.

And of course communication doesn't have to be in words - it can be via body language, groans, moans, sighs, squirming under your lover's fingers - and much more! (

If you need more information about sex and relationships, you can find it here.)

Sexual technique - in this case knowing how to give oral sex well - starts with communication and knowing what your partner wants. It also means knowing how the body works and responds to various sexual stimuli.

So here, in no particular order, are some very helpful hints for making oral sex better.....

The disappearing clitoris!

When a woman is close to orgasm, her clitoris tends to disappear under its hood and retract back into her body.

This can be very confusing for men who may not know what position it's taken up, nor where they should try and stimulate their partner now that the clitoris has disappeared on them!

The answer is to simply continue giving her cunnilingus by licking or fingering in the general area where you last saw her clitoris.

You may also find that a bit of pressure on her lower abdomen with the palm of your hand near her vagina will make it reappear.

You can also try parting her labia and pressing gently on ether side of the clitoral shaft to bring the clitoral glans back into full view.

The disappearing orgasm!

As a man you know that once your orgasm starts, it reaches its inevitable conclusion of ejaculation quite quickly, regardless of what you or your partner may or may not do. It may feel stronger, and probably feel better, if you are thrusting in her, or your partner has her hand around your penis.

But the point is that your orgasm pretty much continues anyway, regardless of the position you're in, once it has started. For her, it's different.

Her orgasm may well stop if you don't continue stimulating her clitoris, even after she started to climax.

So - how best to give head, go down on her, give her cunnilingus? Most women prefer repetition - so when you find something that makes her moan with delight, or tell you how good it is, that's a great sign you should continue doing it! Unfortunately, the clitoris is a sensitive little organ. You may find that what excited her last time has no effect this time. You may find that what excites her when you start this time stops working for no understandable reason as your sex play goes on. You may find her shifting her vulva around in your face as she tries to keep the bit that feels most sensitive near your tongue! Ah, the problems of being a man!

You can also press the whole of your tongue against her genitals, or lick her vaginal opening while you press your upper lip against her clitoris, or lick up and to the side of the clitoris.

The possibilities are unlimited, of course: it's all about finding out what she likes. One favorite of many women is for the man to lick upwards towards the clitoris in the centre of her vulva, across her vaginal and urethral opening, but to stop just below the clitoris.

This presses on the clitoris in a subtle way, sufficient to give the stimulation that will drive her towards orgasm but not so hard on the clitoris that it seems uncomfortable.

And you can even try tongue-fucking her: pressing your tongue in and out of her vaginal opening.

She may or may not like this, but it's likely to be a big turn on for you! See how she responds to this - what you may well find is that at times she likes this as part of cunnilingus, and at other times she does not seem quite so enamored by it. Such is the way of the world when it comes to stimulating a woman sexually!

One thing that can be helpful to you as a man in judging what is going on for your partner is this: the taste of her vaginal secretions will change when she reaches a certain level of arousal.

That may not mean she's going to come, but it certainly means that she's on the road to orgasm. Also, if you slip a finger inside her while stimulating her orally and feel her G spot, this will give you some clear indications about what to do next.

If her G spot is ridged and rough, then more attention round and about her clitoris is appropriate.

If her G spot is smooth, swollen, and she responds to pressure on it with moans of delight, then a little less attention externally and a little more internally will be highly likely to excite her.

At this point you might want to try sliding your finger in and out of her, to mimic the movements of a penis moving in her as she nears orgasm. A word of warning, though!

You need plenty of lubricant to ensure this is a pleasant experience for her - and her own natural lubrication may not be enough. Have some high quality artificial lube handy.

At this point I would like to turn attention back to you as the man stimulating your partner.

One of the best ways to ensure sexual pleasure for both of you is to bring her to orgasm through manual play (masturbation) or cunnilingus (oral sex) before you enter her and enjoy sexual intercourse.

The idea here is that this will allow you to satisfy her with an orgasm before you yourself reach orgasm.

And that's not a bad idea, although the biggest drawback is that having had your face in your partner's pussy for as long as it takes to get her to orgasm means you are likely to be very aroused and going to ejaculate even quicker!

Certainly it will be difficult for her to tell whether or not those sensations come from your finger or your tongue!

Generally, the less rushed she is, and the more comfortable she feels about taking her time to get to orgasm, the quicker it will happen.

Most women need to be either highly aroused or extremely relaxed to reach orgasm easily, so the more she feels that there is no time pressure on her, the less likely it is to happen.

You can aid this process by telling her that she has just as long as she wants or needs, and that she can relax and take her time. This will help to relax her and give her a sense that you really care about whether or not she reaches orgasm.

Furthermore, many women are sensitive about the appearance of this part of their body, and they are likely to be much more subject to self-doubt about how attractive or appealing their genitals are than you are about your penis and balls.

So reassurance, even if you have to repeat it every time you offer her cunnilingus, is very good for her sexual self-confidence, and hence her ability to reach orgasm.

You can provide this in several ways, the simplest being just to tell her how attractive and desirable her pussy (or whatever word you use between the two of you) is, how it smells and tastes sweet, and how you love the taste of her juices.

You can also just look at her, express your desire with a few well-chosen words ("Oh! My! God!") and then get your face back in there.

You'll know what to do! And finally, while you offer her cunnilingus, don't forget to keep providing reassurance and affection by clasping her hand, touching her breasts, massaging her buttocks and rubbing her tummy.

If she's having her period, you can still enjoy oral sex: just ask her to put a new tampon in there and push the thread up into herself.

Don't forget to take it out afterwards! After she's come, make sure you cuddle and lie together for a while, unless she expresses the desire to have you enter her immediately.

That's quite likely, for an orgasm makes women more desirous of sexual contact, and the perfect loving act from her point of view after you've just given her an orgasm, is to feel you inside her. Lucky you!

Oral sex positions: fellatio

(Oral sex in which she pleasures him)

While many a woman might feel more inhibited by the prospect of putting her man's penis in her mouth than he will be about licking her clitoris, for a man it is really important that his partner offers him fellatio.

And I don't say this just because I'm a man! Fellatio represents the ultimate gesture of love, trust and acceptance for a man.

We don't need to analyze that statement; it represents how a man feels about his penis, and the relationship he has with it.

It's helpful to decide if you want to go all the way to orgasm through oral sex, or to save his orgasm and ejaculation for penetrative sex.

Some men don't mind - others will feel very cheated if they don't reach orgasm through intercourse.

Some might like to do this alternately; it's all a matter of personal preference, which it's good to be sensitive too. You can discuss this before you start, or let events unfold as you go along.

But if he does want to reach orgasm through oral sex, don't feel deprived or rejected - it certainly isn't an indication of anything other than the fact that fellatio feels absolutely superb for a man.

Ask your guy if he prefers oral sex or vaginal sex and you might see what I mean. They are different but both very exciting!

As for position, anywhere you can get access to his penis which leaves it at a comfortable angle will be good for him; he may be on his back, with you kneeling over him, or in a number of other positions (more ideas follow in a minute) - but make sure that the angle of his erect penis is good for him.

There isn't much difficulty getting in the right position for fellatio, since his penis is much more accessible than your clitoris and vulva.

The usual position is to lie beside him on the bed and move down until his penis is within reach of your mouth. However, there are better options: for one thing, it's great for him if he can see what you're doing. This adds real spice to the act of fellatio.

So a much better position is to do a 69 or soixante-neuf type position, with him lying under you as you kneel over him, facing his penis. That way he can admire your bottom and vulva, perhaps even get their scent, and certainly play with them. However, he may still not be able to see you.

So a better option still is to lie further down the bed, and face him, with your head level with his groin. That way you can look him directly in the eye as you take his penis and possibly his testicles into your mouth.

Another great option is for him to sit on the side of the bed while you kneel in front of him, head level with his erection, and take him in your mouth, as you look up at him. This is quite likely to drive him wild.

You can also do this with him standing, and which feels better will mostly depend on how tall you both are.

But the standing one is good for him - it gives him that sense of you paying homage to his penis, which, after all, is probably his most prized possession!

You also have both hands free to play with his testicles and scrotum, perhaps even put a finger on (or up) his anus - and if he's into that, you can also get to his nipples, perineum and buttocks.

When he ejaculates, if you are taking it to ejaculation, you have control of how deeply he is in your mouth, and whether or not he ejaculates into your mouth or over your breasts (or indeed anywhere else you like it).

Since he knows best what he likes when it comes to fellatio, he's the best person to ask what you should do to please him.

Mind you, if you just get it right without asking, he's likely to revere you as a sex goddess for some time afterwards!

Oral sex is more about the receiver's pleasure than the giver's, and the position you take for this kind of sex is crucial to its success.

Once you've got that sorted out, it isn't just a matter of randomly licking him - you have to have a certain sexual technique.

Most feeling is in the glans of his penis, so you certainly don't need to try and take him deeply, although this might give him an extra thrill! It's important to use your hand and your mouth, perhaps even both hands, which you can use to rub the shaft as you stimulate his glans with your mouth, lips and tongue.

Keep it moist, since dry oral sex is just as uncomfortable for him as it is for you.

Sidebar: The vast majority of men need to control ejaculation. It's natural to find yourself ejaculating too quickly, but this gives less satisfaction and pleasure to your female partner and shortens sex for you both.

Create a decent amount of suction, but don't suck, and what ever you do, don't blow! You'll soon find the movements of your tongue which excite him most, but as a general rule, any pressure on the glans will excite him.

As for the perennial question of swallowing vs. spitting, if you finish him off with your hand when he's about to ejaculate, he won't mind, although you can always give him the pleasure of watching himself cum over your breasts or neck (or your face if you're into it and you've given him permission).

Alternatively, swallow quickly, or hold his semen in your mouth and spit it into the basin later.

Do not, under any circumstances, make disgusted or disparaging noises about the flavor, appearance or experience of tasting or swallowing his semen. He will be most hurt.

Laci Green On Semen

Start with eye contact. Then work your way down his penile shaft, licking as you go, perhaps holding his penis with one hand while you administer these initial oral caresses. Next, you have a choice.

Some men prefer it if you take as much of their cock as you can in one fell swoop; others prefer a gradual approach, taking a bit of his shaft at a time into your mouth, and moving your tongue and lips around it as you do so.

Bear in mind that different parts of his penis will produce very different sensations as you run your tongue around and over them - his glans, coronal rim, foreskin, and frenulum will all produce slightly different but very pleasing sensations - and his urethral opening may be the most sensitive part of all.

If you combine stimulation of all these areas with gentle massage of his balls, this is going to put you in poll position as a super lover in his eyes!

To make sure that the experience stays pleasant for you, make sure you relax the muscles of your jaw and neck.

Keep breathing through your mouth and make sure you cover your teeth with your lips. If you flick your tongue over the head of his penis, use long broad strokes, and do it slowly.

Sensuous and slow - that's the key to great fellatio! Having said that, he may like a faster pace as he nears his climax - in which case, use your hand to slide up and down his shaft while you keep his glans in your mouth.

Make sure you shift position while you enjoy oral sex so that you remain comfortable.

Find a rhythm that you can keep going. Use your hand in a fist to move up and down the base of his shaft, then move your lips and tongue over his glans, perhaps moving your head back and forth to mimic the thrusting of his penis in your vagina.

He may wish to thrust as well, especially if he has his eyes closed and he's gone into his fantasy world. If so, make sure he doesn't get carried away, and pull your head back if he gets too excited.

As you move your hand up and down, let your mouth move with it; and let your tongue move around over his cock head as you do so.

It's also really helpful if you act like you're enjoying it! Make some enthusiastic noises - then remove your head, look admiringly at his penis, then go back to work; this is all about showing him you like what you're doing.

And, if you do, you may well find that you get aroused as you pleasure him. If you start thinking about something unrelated (it happens) then change technique, focus on the (blow) job and keep going.

Sucking his testicles may well get him really excited! A change from time to time will keep his sensitivity high and you interested in the blow-job.

You'll know he's about to come when his penis swells, gets very hard, turns a darker color - and his testicles rise towards his body.

You may also get a clue when he starts to breath much more deeply, starts thrusting hard, or lies still (odd, isn't it?). If he shouts "I'm going to come", it's also a fair sign he's about to ejaculate.

He may make some inarticulate noises - as you may already know if you've seen a man come, it can be a noisy affair!

If you're swallowing, be ready for the moment when his glans becomes extremely sensitive after he has ejaculated - he may well want you to remove any kind of stimulation on his penis for a few moments.

If you're not swallowing his semen, continue stimulating with your hands and let him ejaculate onto your breasts or body and then remove your hands after his final spurts of semen have emerged.

Treat his penis carefully after he has ejaculated - rest it on his belly, and then see if he wants a cuddle.

He may, of course just want to go to sleep, because his body is now full of sleepy hormones. (Whereas yours after sex is full of bonding hormones.)

Finally, not all men can come through oral stimulation alone.

Sometimes it takes more friction than a mouth alone can provide - so you may need to use your hands to give him that extra bit of friction which will take him into his climax.