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Woman On Top Sexual Positions
Woman on top sexual positions
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Woman on top lovemaking - enjoy this position to the max!
This isn't complicated! If you're a man lying on your back with an erection, and your female partner is straddling you, then the basic variation is whether she faces towards your face or your feet as she inserts your penis into her vagina.
Many men find their penis is bent uncomfortably if their partner is facing towards their feet - in fact, it may not even be possible for you to insert your penis into her if it points straight up towards your chest when it's erect.
But as always - think of the fun you can have trying out this sex position!
As you can see in the pictures above (which, by the way, all expand if you click on them), a woman has plenty of opportunity to take a dominant role during woman on top sex.
And since her body is not constrained by her partner's, as it may be during man on top sex, she has the freedom to move into the position that best suits her and gives her the greatest pleasure.
Variations on the woman on top sexual position
The woman lies on top
Woman on top sexual positions can give you a whole variety of sensations, depending on the angle at which the woman lies on top of the man.
What's best for you and your partner will be something you only discover when you try this position, since the angle and shape of each couple's vagina and penis are slightly different.
But a good starting point is to have the female partner lie on top of the male partner with her chest close to his.
The physical feelings here can be very strong. Their intensity will depend chiefly on how closely the woman keeps her legs together.
If she lies with her legs inside the man's and keeps them very close together, his penis will be squeezed in a way that is hard to achieve in any other sexual position, and though he is likely to ejaculate quickly, the feelings will be stronger for the woman as well.
For a woman who likes the sense of penetration and the feeling of her man's penis inside her, this is a powerful experience.
It's exactly like this sexual position, except that the man and the woman are the other way up....
Obviously sex will last longer if there is less pressure on the man's penis, as there will be when she keeps her legs further apart:
Other variations on woman on top positions
Variations on the woman on top positions are all about the angle of the penis in the vagina, and the fact that the woman gets different sensations when the man penetrates her from different angles.
These exciting techniques can be just as powerful for the man because different positions stimulate different parts of his penis and also put different degrees of pressure on it.
Why not try it out - you can have a great deal of fun and be very playful in experimenting with these different sexual positions!
The woman on top faces towards the man
As you can see, in this sexual position the woman has a great deal of flexibility in the angle at which she leans on her man.
Each way of making love will provide deliciously different sensations for her vagina and his penis, and in some cases the different techniques also provide added pleasure for both partners because they can see his penis entering her, or see each other's buttocks, or her breasts.
Another enjoyable thing about this position is that he or she can play with her clitoris (and his balls) to make this even more pleasurable.
Having her on top while still lying face to face has some additional benefits: for instance, if he is very heavy, or if for any reason deep penetration is unwelcome, it is simply a more comfortable sexual technique.
If she kneels astride her man as he lies on his back under her, she has the choice of timing and rhythm and she can also control the depth to which she is penetrated.
She can rub her own clitoris either with a finger or against her partner.
Although most women prefer making love on their backs, there's no doubt that the second most favorite position for sex is this one.
Men like it too because they can pass their hands around her buttocks and freely feel the movements of their penis. And a man can increase her stimulation by stroking her labia and her anus.
This sexual technique involves a lovers' tender embrace
It's always possible to rest during your lovemaking, to talk, to look at each other, and to feel the sexual energy moving between you.
One sexual position where you can not only do all of this but also look deep into each other's eyes is the one shown below, which is a true lovers' embrace, a position in which you can discover exactly how your partner is feeling and see just what he or she would like next.
Resting will allow your sexual energy to accumulate, so that when you do finally go for your orgasms, they may well be much more intense than they would otherwise be.
You can also sit up unsupported if you put your arms around each other.
While you do this, she can clench her vaginal muscles around his penis, and he can twitch his penis inside her to provide enough stimulation to keep his erection.
The woman on top faces away from the man (aka "The Reverse Cowgirl") - an exciting technique for all!
We've already mentioned that men may find this sexual position uncomfortable, but if you can manage it, sex in this position can be a very different experience.
It isn't a position that all men will appreciate, because it puts a lot of pressure on your penis when your partner sits on you facing away - and for men who have a small, hard erect penis that points upright when they are fully aroused, it may even be impossible to get into this position.
It's worthwhile being careful when you try it, to ensure that you don't bend your penis too far forwards and cause yourself any discomfort.
Yet more variations of woman on top sexual positions
There are plenty of other possible variations you can try, some of which are shown below.....
What women really want in bed is sex that makes them feel good. So just how can you pleasure your woman so that she is as satisfied and happy as possible in bed?
1 Connect with her feelings
Be slow, attentive, kind, connect with her feelings and emotions, don't dive straight for her genitals, and give her the space and time she needs to get aroused. Hold back on your own desire.
2 Enjoy great foreplay
Bear in mind that if she senses you're not enjoying yourself or you're not really into the foreplay, she won't be aroused. She might let you move on to full sex, but this is isn't going to be a success. She may believe you either do not know, or do not care, about her needs. She may assume you don't know how to please a woman - which is a bit of an insult to her, when you think about it.
And if you're thinking of "sex" as equivalent to penetrative sex - intercourse - then you're making a mistake. Much of what we call foreplay is also "sex". This includes caressing, touching, kissing, mutual masturbation, oral pleasuring and really any other kind of play you want to engage in. In other words, foreplay is real sex - just as much as intercourse is "real" sex.
If you really care about the woman you're with, change your mindset to think of foreplay as sharing the pleasure of real sex.
3 Show her how much you're enjoying being with her in bed
If she can't pick up obvious signs from you about how you're feeling as you make love, she may begin to wonder if you're enjoying yourself. Then she'll start worrying whether she's doing it well enough. She may start asking you how you're feeling, which is pretty much guaranteed to end all pleasure for both of you.
The way to deal with this is simply to tell her how you're feeling, using verbal and non-verbal signals. Convey your enjoyment with moans of pleasure, whispers of delight, or simple straightforward statements about how good it feels. These will go a long way to reassuring her that you're enjoying yourself. Then she can relax and start to enjoy herself, confident in the knowledge that she's good enough for you. And confident in the certainty that you know how to please a woman in bed.
4 Show your excitement
You might have noticed how making love to a very aroused woman really turns you on.
Did it ever occur to you that this is also true the other way round? She gets really aroused when she senses your unleashed passion and enjoyment of what you're doing together. So don't hold back! Let go, make as much noise as you want, lose your inhibitions and show her you love a good time with her!
It might strike you as strange that men can feel inhibited in bed, but it's absolutely true. So show your enjoyment!
You don't have to shout so loud that the neighbors ring the police! Just make a bit more noise. You might be surprised how it adds to your enjoyment of sex. This includes the noise you make when you come, because the louder you express your pleasure, the more powerful your orgasm will be. Try it and see!
When you're fully in touch with the energy of sex, you really get in touch with the energy of life, and you also get in touch with your passion. Even better, you get in touch with your ability to please your woman in bed.
5 Take It Slowly and Use Simple Pleasuring Techniques To Arouse Her
As far as making love is concerned, the watchword is: build it up slowly, let passion rise however it wants to, and relax into the pleasure.
Here are some ideas to help you sexually satisfy and please the woman in your life.
One of the best techniques for generating arousal is to gently stimulate your woman's skin. Start by using your hands in a conventional massage. You don't really have to know anything about massage techniques to do this - just use some oil and rub your hands over your partner's body.
If you're both naked, then rub your whole body from top to toe over hers, making sure that you support your weight on your arms so you don't rest your weight on her. And remember she'll gain confidence in your ability to please a woman in bed if you are confident.
Let her feel your hardening erection passing over her body as you do this, but don't make it overtly sexual - not at this stage anyway.
Then take time to stimulate the skin with other things such as a feather, or silk, or by blowing warm air across her skin. This is all about enlivening every nerve ending so that her whole body begins to tingle. It's amazing how sensual and erotic this can be, for both you and her to be stimulated in this way.
And of course there will be a point at which you want to move on to massaging the genitals. That's fine if you spend enough time preparing for it. You could even use your mouth on her intimate areas, and she could return the favor for you.
All these are beautiful techniques which show that you know how to please a woman in bed. They are techniques for building up arousal and building sexual tension. They are techniques which lead to much more powerful orgasms later.