Sexual Positions & Techniques
Sitting & Kneeling Positions & Techniques
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Sitting & Kneeling Positions & Techniques
1 Sitting Sex Positions
If you're starting out in your sex life, one sex position you may not have tried is sitting. It seems to be a position that couples don't use until they're more experienced - or perhaps it's one that helps to relieve the boredom or sense of routine that can creep into a sexual relationship after a while.
Whatever, it's not a very popular or common position. In one survey by Vulva Velvet, it transpired that only 1.2% of couples said this was their favorite sex position, and only 5% used it regularly.
A restful way to make love
And if you look up "sitting sex positions" on the search engines, there isn't much useful information. Why on earth is that? Perhaps the assumption is that everyone knows how to do it! But....in case you don't, here comes an explanation.
You can either sit facing each other or you can sit facing away from each other, in which case the woman can thrust backwards onto her man's erection like a sophisticated version of rear entry sex!
This is a technique where the man is treated to the sight of her buttocks framing his erection as he watches himself penetrating her. And most men find this way of having sex to be very exciting....
Sitting sex offers several benefits. A firm chair where both partners can get their legs over the sides and their feet onto the floor gives more support than a bed, so there's more stability as you make love.
This technique means the woman has more control over the depth of penetration and the pace of lovemaking.
That means sex can equally well be spontaneous and passionate or slow and loving; in this sitting position, especially if the woman is facing her partner, sex can be gentle, romantic and cuddly, with plenty of kissing, touching and caressing, or it can be fast, exciting and rollicking with passion.
It's harder to make love in an armchair; the woman will have to squat with her thighs folded if she faces her man, unless he is so slumped that she can sit astride his thighs with her feet on the floor.
An alternative technique here is for her to sit facing away from her man, so that she basically sits in his lap and the couple enjoy a sitting form of rear entry sex.
This can be very exciting and erotic: she can wriggle her hips and pelvis to enhance both her own and her partner's pleasure, either she or he can get to her clitoris, and he can enjoy the feel of her buttocks in his lap.
The third major sitting sex position is for the couple to sit on a bed - the man has his legs over the edge, while his partner sits on his lap facing towards him, her legs clasped behind his waist with her feet resting on the bed.
This way of making love has ample scope for the couple to caress, kiss and explore each other's bodies as passionately as if they were in the early stages of their love affair.
Most difficult of all is the variation where the man and the woman both sit on the bed, clasping each other with their legs around the waist.
This requires a fair degree of flexibility and may not be possible for all couples. Indeed, even those who can manage it may wish to have some kind of back support.
Obviously the woman will be sitting in the man's lap.
One of the advantages of this technique is that you can adopt an almost meditative pose and extend sexual intercourse for as long as you wish - small pelvic movements will keep him erect, and her aroused - while you center your sexual energy centers and visualize the flow of energy around your bodies.
The higher the woman holds her knees, effectively the shorter her vagina will become.
Face-to-face seated sex
Here the man sits on an ordinary chair and the woman sits astride him. This position allows reasonably deep penetration, but there are other advantages which no other position permits.
If the woman, having placed her hands on her man's shoulders, leans very slightly back, he is able to caress her breasts with his mouth; all her most erotically sensitive areas, particularly on her back, are within reach of his hands; while her clitoris is easily accessible to the stimulation of his fingers.
Large couples will find this sexual technique most helpful in obtaining deep penetration.
In general, sitting positions may not give as much sensation as some of the more traditional man on top or woman on top positions, but the naughty thrill of sitting sex may make up for this.
If you happen to be kissing and cuddling in a chair, it's not hard to make the transition into full-blown sex, partly or fully clothed, with a few adjustments to your position.
Once again, the partner on top - generally the woman - is the one who has the most opportunity to move and control the pace of sex; though in some cases the man will be able to move and can help his partner to move by lifting her with his hands under her buttocks - which they are both likely to find rather erotic.
One of the nicest things about face to face sex is the closeness and extensive body contact that you can enjoy; in fact, this is what helps to give sitting sex a strong feeling of intimacy and connection.
Of course, it's arguable that many of the positions we have described on other pages fall into the category of sitting sex: for example, does "sitting sex" include a position where the woman is sitting on top of her man as he lies on the bed?
We believe it doesn't matter. There are no hard and fast rules about sex - and indeed different categories may serve no useful purpose other than to satisfy our wish to classify things.
2 Kneeling Sex Techniques
There aren't any rules about how to enjoy yourselves during sex: indeed, there's a lot to be said for a simple philosophy of "if it feels good, do it".
With that in mind, here are some suggestions, in the guise of photos, about how you might enjoy the more adventurous forms of sexual intercourse, among which I'd include kneeling sex positions.
One of the possible advantages of the photos shown here is that the man can manipulate his position in relation to his partner so that she enjoys the maximum G spot stimulation.
This can add greatly to her pleasure. I'd guess that you have to be fairly uninhibited to enjoy these positions, since they expose you completely to your partner's gaze, and they involve a fair amount of romping around in pretty unconventional sex positions.Finally, I came across the so-called Kneeling Ball Sex Position in the outer reaches of the internet, and I thought I'd describe it here for you.
In this the position the woman lies on her side as though she was going to curl up into a ball.
The man is kneeling, facing the woman's back. He penetrates her from behind, while he's kneeling and she's sort-of curled up into a ball.
He can thrust from his hips, though the woman can move somewhat as well. If you're into power play, this is a good technique since one partner is naturally subordinate and one is naturally dominant and in control.
The man can change the angle and direction of penetration so he stimulates his partner's clitoris and G spot.
The woman move her legs in and out of the ball (i.e. straighten them) to change the sensations for her man.
And her man can give a lot of loving attention to his woman as she lies on the bed.