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Sexual Positions RevisitedSex with the woman on top, face to face position The second of the face to face sex positions is the converse of the first one, with the man lying on his back and the woman lying on him with her legs on either side of his thighs. It's easier to get the penis into the vagina and keep it there if the woman first takes up a crouching position over the man, her legs drawn up and her torso bent over his. Either he or she puts his penis into her in this position, and she then stretches first one leg down and then the other, and lowers her trunk onto her partner's. Though by putting a pillow under the man's buttocks you can increase the depth of penetration, his penis will never go more than half of its length into her. There are other advantages, though, for your lovemaking: for example, you can see each other, you can kiss deeply, your hands are free to caress each other's nipples, breasts and other erogenous zones, including the back, the spine, the buttocks, the outer and inner thighs, and the very sensitive backs of her knees. Perhaps the main difference between these two sex positions is that it requires the woman to make the main movements, and so lets her control how soon she reaches orgasm. This, however, can be a disadvantage if the man has not yet completely mastered control of his own normally faster orgasm and ejaculation. However, if he reaches orgasm before she does, she can continue thrusting or moving until she comes, while her man lies beneath her, relaxed and enjoying post-orgasm pleasure, which he cannot do when he is above her and needs to thrust. Sex in this position is great when the man is tired and both partners want sex. Even if the man hasn't got a rock hard erection, penetration will still be possible and if she grips his penis with her vaginal muscles, it won't slip out easily. Side by side, face to face sexThe third face to face sex position (lying side by side) seems to be very popular; perhaps because it can be the least tiring of all the positions. The man lies on his right side facing his partner, who lies turned towards him on her left side. She then raises her lower leg, the one on the bed, and passes it over his lower leg, bending it a little at the knee and pushing her thigh high up between the man's. He then passes his upper leg over her lower leg at the same time maneuvering his penis into line with her vagina entrance. The woman will nearly always have to help his penis into her vagina; as soon as the man feels the warm softness of her vagina around his penis, he thrusts his upper leg as far over as it will go, which pushes his penis deeper into her. She then passes her upper leg over his upper leg, bending it so that, if possible, she can take a purchase with the crook of her knee on the man's hipbone. (if all this makes this sex position sound difficult if not impossible to get into, then simply starting in the man on top position for sex and then roll over onto your side with the woman's thighs well drawn up. This is a good substitute for the complicated maneuvers outlined above, though you end up in a slightly different position.) Usually by the time the more complicated maneuvers have been performed the man is lying more on his back than on his side, and his penis may not be very far into his partner. If the tip of the penis can get even a short way past the vaginal entrance, so that the head and none of the shaft penetrates the vagina and can be withdrawn and then put back again, sensations are produced in the woman which are quite unlike any other; the man, too, enjoys the feeling of his glans rubbing against the soft tissues of the vaginal entrance. The mutual sensations experienced in this position are like no other, except perhaps in the man on top position for intercourse when the man arches his back and holds his pubic area away from his partner's so that only the head of his penis goes in and out of her vaginal entrance. This movement, however, is tiring, whereas the thrust and withdrawal in the side-by-side position produces no physical strain. But one big drawback is that there can be so much lubricating fluid produced in this position that the penis loses friction with the vagina at the very moment the man is reaching the point of orgasm and ejaculation, with reduced sensation for one or both partners as a result. Deep penetrationDeeper penetration than usual is possible in another of the face to face sex positions. For this the woman lies across the bed, her head supported by a pillow, her buttocks on the edge of the bed, and her legs bent with her feel parallel with the floor. The man places himself between her spread legs and lowers himself until he can put his penis into her. He will have to bend his trunk over her, but only sufficiently to bring the penis to a point where it can penetrate her. He should support himself on his hands with his arms stretched out, or, if they are long, bent as little as possible to allow the angle of his body to provide penis-vagina contact. To obtain the deepest penetration in this position, the woman should keep her feet firmly on the floor throughout sex, for as soon as she raises her feet or stretches out her legs, the vaginal angle changes and penetration immediately becomes shallower. The higher the bed from the ground, the easier the man can make contact with the woman and the deeper the penetration. The most effective contact is made if the bed is so high that the two pubic areas are on the same level. Some modern beds are low enough that they permit intercourse in another face to face sexual position; here again the woman lies across the bed, her buttocks on its edge and the man kneels between her legs. If his pubic area is below her he must kneel on something - pillows or a footstool, or whatever is convenient and of the right height - to bring it level with hers. Having got as close to the bed as he can he places his hands under her thighs and draws her vagina on to his penis. She then raises her legs until they rest on his hips, and if possible crosses her ankles behind his back. He supports her thighs with his hands throughout sex. Though he cannot use his hands or mouth to stimulate her, there are compensating contacts, for in this lovemaking position the clitoris is most often brought into direct touch with the penis and is stimulated by the man's thrusting movements. To slow down your ejaculation....In all the positions where the woman has her legs over the edge of the bed, the penis must enter the vagina more or less at an angle of ninety degrees to the man's body, which in most cases will mean that it has to be pushed down if its natural position is more vertically erect. Once inside the vagina its constant efforts to assume its more upright posture will press it against the roof of the vagina and increase the friction there. In theory, since the nerves in the frenulum and glans only lightly touch the floor of the vagina, the man will need a longer period of stimulation than if the underside of his penis was pressed against the floor of the vagina. This is a distinct advantage because it means the man has a better chance of keeping pace with his partner's slower rhythm. Many couples who use this position for intercourse say that they can achieve simultaneous orgasm more often when enjoying sex like this than in any other position. If, when the man kneels between his partner's thighs, his pubic area is higher than hers, he must raise hers with a pillow or cushions until they are level. Another variation of this sexual position gives almost the same penetration. The woman lies lengthways on the bed - i.e., from head to foot - and the man kneels between her legs, squatting backwards on his heels. Again supporting the woman's buttocks with his hands, he works his way forward until his knees are right under them and her vagina entrance is above his penis. He then lowers her vagina over his penis. In this position the woman must make the movements, which should not be so great that the penis, once in, leaves the vagina. As a variation on this, and depending on the suppleness of the woman's legs, she can raise one leg at a time, so that eventually her heels rest on her man's shoulders. Or she may only so raise one leg; or during intercourse, she may alternate them. Whichever she does, she increases penetration. This posture can be taken up when the woman lies across the bed and the man kneels on the floor. None of these postures is 100 per cent successful when the vaginal entrance is set forward. If, however, it is set back, they are really ideal. Without doubt the greatest sensations of deep penetration, and actual deep penetration, are provided by the next sexual position. It is called the woman-astride position, and besides making really deep penetration possible - even the average-length penis will touch back areas of the vagina it has never been able to reach before - it has several other advantages during lovemaking as well. Next: Sex in the woman astride, man underneath position - "The Cow Girl"
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