Sex Techniques and PositionsThe Man's Orgasm - With and Without Ejaculation |
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The next stage of great sex!If you're dedicated enough to practice all the sexual techniques that we have discussed so far, there are plenty of variations which you can bring to your lovemaking. This is about refined technique, about the capacity to adapt what you do as lovemaking continues so that both your pleasure and that of your partner is increased. Of course, regular thrusting which gradually leads to a faster rhythm and eventually a powerful orgasm is all very well, and indeed it can provide very satisfactory sex. However, if you're a man without the capacity to last a long time in bed, or at least one who needs to last longer in bed, then you might wish to adopt some Tantric techniques so that your female partner can share the pleasure as well. For many women, orgasm will come during intercourse when the man can provide long-lasting thrusting, at a regular rhythm that stimulates her G spot in a consistent and strong way - unfortunately, these are the conditions which make many men ejaculate fairly quickly! (Many Tantric practitioners I have met suggest using a finger to stimulate a woman's G spot in this way, but the women with whom I have been privileged to have sex never seem to find this as exciting as my penis!) However, one way of coping with impending ejaculation is to slow down your thrusts, or to take shallower thrusts. Conversely, of course, one way to speed up your orgasm is to thrust harder and faster. In Tantric terminology, each type of thrust has its own evocative name - which is not necessarily related to the actual style of thrusting (at least, not as far as I can see!). So, to give you a flavour of these variations, I present to you some exciting sexual techniques: Horse thrusts - not guaranteed to extend intercourse, sadly, but wild horse thrusts imply that the man bucks and thrusts wildly, going into his partner deeply, thrusting himself forward like a wild horse crossing a lake! The snake thrusts are those where the man pushes his erect penis very slowly into his partner - but goes into her vagina deeply. The mouse thrusts - think of a mouse: the movements of a man making mouse thrusts are shallow and quick, like the fast, focused movements of a mouse running through the undergrowth. Eagle thrusts involve the man making thrusts which are punctuated by moments of rest - motionless - with the man holding his penis at the entrance to his partner's vagina, before he swoops down inside her with force and energy, as though he were an eagle trying to catch his prey. You are probably getting the idea now, so think of the movements of a sparrow. Would it surprise you to learn that the sparrow thrusts are those which are very shallow, delicate and energetic, playing and pecking around the entrance to the vagina? So it goes on.......the ox thrusts are alternate deep and shallow thrusts by the man, while the bear thrusts are the opposite of the eagle thrusts: in other words, the man holds his penis as deeply in his partner as he can before withdrawing and re-entering. All of these variations will give you and your partner a different experience, some of which can lead to wonderfully different sexual sensations. All of these techniques will give you different feelings, different delays in intercourse before you ejaculate, and they may even give you the techniques to bring your partner to orgasm. The famous pubococcygeus muscle....The pubococcygeus muscle is also called the PC muscle. It's the muscle that allows you to stop your urine flow in mid-stream, and - at least in the belief system of some ejaculation control gurus - allows you to stop your ejaculation by clenching it down tightly when you reach the point of imminent ejaculation (the point of ejaculatory inevitability). For various reasons, not least of which is that it is incredibly difficult to actually stop yourself ejaculating by using your PC muscle, I don't recommend this technique for men who need to control their ejaculation. (Instead try End Premature Ejaculation Now!) However, the extraordinary thing is that the Tantric tradition involves great use of the PC muscle, and the way that the Tantrikas suggest that you should train it, so as to help you get more powerful ejaculations and orgasms during intercourse, is by clenching and unclenching it up to one hundred times a day. Paradoxically, this will also help with ejaculation control, and as another benefit it will also improve blood circulation and muscle fitness.. And to take the trained PC muscle idea way, way further.....The devoted Tantrikas will tell you that control of your body is a wonderful thing, and that if you wish to develop control of your sex muscles to give you the ultimate level of sexual pleasure, then you should aim to develop control the "movements" of your testicles by using your pubococcygeus muscle! They call it the testicle dance, apparently, and the way you do it is this: start by standing naked in front of a mirror, with an erection. When you twitch your PC muscle, your erect penis will twitch slightly. (By the way, one way of training the pubococcygeus muscle is to put a towel on your penis and then twitch it up and down with the PC muscle!) Now, once you have mastered the
art of the penile twitch, look at your testicles. You'll see one of them moves
up slightly when you twitch your penis: if you practice long enough and hard
enough you'll find that you develop the ability to raise your testicle by a considerable
amount! With constant
practice you'll be able to get it to rise considerably. With training, you can
even raise up to a kilo tied to your testicles.....apparently. Why you would
wish to do this, however, is another issue..... Female OrgasmHow does the energy of the female orgasm feature in Taoist philosophy? Well, first of all, women's sexual energy is very different to men's. However, sex is complementary - neither kind of energy is better or worse than the other. Indeed, both types of energy are needed for completion of the sexual energy circle. So the Yin energy of women is cooler and darker, and may need male Yang energy to fire it up, to get it going. However, the major difference is that female sexual energy is unlimited, and male energy is not - a man can be depleted by ejaculation, while a woman's sexual energy is enhanced by sexual orgasm. When the female generative power meets the male sexual power, they combine into the ultimate power that lies behind the Universal manifestation. Taoists do not seek to restrict female orgasm - but they certainly do seek to restrict male sexual energy. This means that women can enjoy sex as much as they choose.....with as many orgasms as they can experience. Developing female sexualityWhat you "use" sex for depends on many factors. The simplest way to see sex is as a source of physical pleasure. Those who believe that sex can be a route to a high level of spiritual enlightenment may take a Taoist view and wish to learn how to fully enjoy their sexuality and their connection to universal sexual energy. However, a lot of women in the west have problems accepting their sexuality, in fully getting into their bodies and orgasmic potential. They are also confronted with a wide variety of images which don't work to enhance a holistic view of female sexuality, but rather work to inculcate an attitude where women may regard themselves as sexual objects and appendages of men's sexual desire rather than fully sexual human beings in their own right. When a woman has a psychological issue with acceptance of her sexuality, she needs to work through this before she can take full ownership of her sexuality and become both whole-heartedly and whole-bodily orgasmic and develop her connection to the universal source of spiritual sexual energy. There are of course a number of ways in which women can become more fully sexual and orgasmic, involving exercises to bring them into full awareness of their sensual nature and connection with divine sexuality. There are those who would take the view that a woman who was fully "into" her sexuality was not only sexually liberated, but fully sexual, fully empowered, and emotionally satisfied. An "orgasm a day" certainly does keep the doctor away! One of the ways in which women can
develop full awareness of their sexuality is through the practice of Tantric
sex. A person (man or woman) who takes a spiritual view of sex becomes a lover
of not only their sexual partner, but also of God, the divine, and the
Universe in general. Makes you see sex in a whole new light, doesn't it?
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