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Sex positions for deep penetration
Deep penetration can be very rewarding. Men are genetically programmed with the desire to ejaculate deep inside a woman's body (though sometimes it seems not to matter if that's in her vagina, anus or mouth!), and they really enjoy the positions that allow them to get as deeply into their partner's vagina as possible during sex.
Women may crave deep penetration for the emotionally rewarding sensations it gives them - a sense of satisfaction that goes beyond the mere physical.
For, with all positions that offer the possibility of deep penetration, there's the sense of being deeply connected to one's partner. And both sexes enjoy positions that offer deep penetration because they can feel very, very good!
One challenge in all these deep-thrusting positions is that a man may come very quickly - maybe not too soon for his pleasure, but perhaps too soon for his partner, who may not have had enough physical stimulation to get her fully aroused or to allow her to reach orgasm. This is discussed more below.
1 Man on top positions where the woman has her legs raised towards her chest
And the further she raises her legs, the deeper he will be able to enter her. But even in the standard man on top position, where his partner lies on her back and places her feet on his calves, he can get pretty deep into her vagina and thrust vigorously.
2 Rear entry sex positions
This position is especially good for deep penetration when the woman is lying face down, with her buttocks raised. The Kama Sutra describes one way in which a couple can get into this position for sex: they start by kneeling with the woman sitting astride her man, facing away from him.
Then she bends forward until he is able to enter her. She then stretches her legs backwards alongside his, resting her chest on her arms which are folded under her, while she raises her buttocks with pillows. The final position is something like this:
This is really making things more complicated than they need to be, for any rear entry sex position is good for deep penetration, including the conventional "woman kneeling with man behind her" positions, as shown below.
3 Other positions for deep penetration
One of the risks of deep penetration is that a man's penis can hit his partner's cervix if he thrusts too hard or too deeply during sex. A position that makes this less likely to happen is the one where the woman lies flat on her belly, spreading her legs as wide as possible, while her man penetrates her as he lies on top of her.
This position has the added advantage of allowing excellent G-spot stimulation during sex.
There are a variety of other sex positions which allow the man to penetrate his partner deeply. Unfortunately, many of them depend on one or both of the couple being very flexible.
In the first position shown below, the man may have to pull his partner towards him to ensure he gets into her vagina deeply.
The second position shown is reputed to allow deep penetration, especially if the man lies back on the bed so that he is horizontal.
The third picture shows a couple having sex in a position where deep penetration is certainly possible, but the actual depth to which the man enters his partner is controlled by the woman.
Another good position for deep penetration is shown in the fourth picture, where the woman is on top, lying along her partner's body.
And last (but not illustrated below), is the classic rear entry position where the man stands behind his partner as she bends forward from the waist, perhaps even bending far enough to touch the floor.
Deeper penetration than usual is possible when the woman lies across the bed, her head supported by a pillow, her buttocks on the edge of the bed, and her legs bent with her feel parallel with the floor.
The man places himself between her spread legs and lowers himself until he can put his penis into her. He will have to bend his trunk over her, but only sufficiently to bring the penis to a point where it can penetrate her.
He should support himself on his hands with his arms stretched out, or, if they are long, bent as little as possible to allow the angle of his body to provide penis-vagina contact.
To obtain the deepest penetration in this sex position, the woman should keep her feet firmly on the floor throughout sex, for as soon as she raises her feet or stretches out her legs, the vaginal angle changes and penetration immediately becomes shallower.
The higher the bed from the ground, the easier the man can make contact with the woman and the deeper the penetration.
The most effective contact is made if the bed is so high that the two pubic areas are on the same level.
Some modern beds are low enough that they permit intercourse in another face to face sexual position; here again the woman lies across the bed, her buttocks on its edge and the man kneels between her legs.
If his pubic area is below her he must kneel on something - pillows or a footstool, or whatever is convenient and of the right height - to bring it level with hers. Having got as close to the bed as he can he places his hands under her thighs and draws her vagina on to his penis.
She then raises her legs until they rest on his hips, and if possible crosses her ankles behind his back. He supports her thighs with his hands throughout sex.
Though he cannot use his hands or mouth to stimulate her, there are compensating contacts, for in this lovemaking position the clitoris is most often brought into direct touch with the penis and is stimulated by the man's thrusting movements.
Another variation of this sexual position gives almost the same penetration. The woman lies lengthways on the bed - i.e., from head to foot - and the man kneels between her legs, squatting backwards on his heels.
Again supporting the woman's buttocks with his hands, he works his way forward until his knees are right under them and her vagina entrance is above his penis. He then lowers her vagina over his penis.
In this position the woman must make the movements, which should not be so great that the penis, once in, leaves the vagina.
As a variation on this, and depending on the suppleness of the woman's legs, she can raise one leg at a time, so that eventually her heels rest on her man's shoulders.
Or she may only so raise one leg; or during intercourse, she may alternate them.
Whichever she does, she increases penetration. This posture can be taken up when the woman lies across the bed and the man kneels on the floor.
None of these postures is 100 per cent successful when the vaginal entrance is set forward. If, however, it is set back, they are really ideal.
Without doubt the greatest sensations of deep penetration, and actual deep penetration, are provided by the next sexual position.
It is called the woman-astride position, and besides making really deep penetration possible - even the average-length penis will touch back areas of the vagina it has never been able to reach before - it has several other advantages during lovemaking as well. Next:
More places where you can get great information about sex positions include a great sex positions site claiming to reveal "your best sex position" but with many valuable suggestions for improving the quality of your lovemaking.
There are certainly no shortage of websites about sex and sex positions, though one problem is that the information is of variable value and often surrounded by pornographic illustrations of sex.
We've always tried to avoid the images that offend by including only tasteful pictures of lovemaking from men and women in committed relationships, showing the joy and delight of sex in the context of an equal relationship between the male and female partner.
Another website which has been written by professional sex therapists and delights in this approach to explaining human sexuality is Sex And Relationships, where you can see many more images like the ones above.
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From the female forums, where comment is, as they say, free!
Question: I'll keep this
simple - What is the best sex position, do you think, to get the deepest
penetration? I don't mean up the ass!
1 I would say doggy style. But anal can feel good if you have a partner who knows how to do it and uses lots of lube.
2 I agree - for me deep penetration is best when he is behind me. Two variations which will produce totally different sensations: first is rear entry with the woman on her hands and knees or maybe standing up as she bends over so he can enter from behind - it is best to have something to hold on to as this allows you to push back a little as he thrusts - this position can even be enjoyed in the shower...the second variation is in bed with you laying on your stomach with your hips lifted a little off the bed with a pillow under your lower tummy - which has the effect of lifting your pussy higher and lets him drive in a little deeper. Enjoy - I know I do!
3 We always get the deepest penetration when having sex in the following position: I - the man, that is - open her legs as wide as possible and then pin them back, using my biceps behind her knees to hold them there.
I then rock or lift her backwards so that her buttocks are raised off the bed. At this point I push deep into her pussy.
A variation is to have her legs on my shoulders and put my hands under her hips, then lift her up towards me and onto my cock. As I lean forward, I'm above her at a steep angle, and I can push deeply into her. As I thrust with my pelvis I pull her towards me with my arms wrapped around her.
These are two of our most favorite positions because I'm able to pound her hard and deep, which she absolutely adores - it makes her climax easily! All these positions are good for us.
4 I agree, for deep penetration you have to get him to hold your legs as far back as possible, and that gives him a great sight of your vulva as well, which can make him even more horny! But personally rear entry is far more rewarding and really gets me aroused!
I also agree that for my man penetration seems to feel deeper when my legs are pressed or somehow pinned back.
For me, however, it feels deeper when he enters from behind - and I am sure that this is made more intense because my clit gets more stimulation when he pushes into me when we're in the doggy style sex position.
Also I feel I have better vaginal muscle control in this position, which means I can squeeze and relax around his penis when he enters me from behind.
5 I really have the sensation that I'm in my wife much more deeply when my she holds her thighs as far back as possible or when she pulls me into her with her legs wrapped around me.
This feels so great, but of course it may be psychological! And sex in the "from behind" position always feels great as well!
6 I know that being on top while my boyfriend is laying on his back works quite well in giving us deep penetration, too, but it all depends on how comfortable you are when doing the splits!
When you're in any variation of the woman on top sex position, you undoubtedly have more control over how deep he goes into your pussy - good for women whose fellas have long cocks - and it's certainly an easy position for him to play with my clit either with his hands (or for me to thrust in a way that stimulates it with friction on his body).
7 I get the deepest penetration when we are in missionary position for sex with my legs as wide apart as possible or as far back towards my head as possible. That way he can get deep - and boy does it feel good!
Doggy style just doesn't go as deep for me - maybe something to do with the angles?
8 I agree - women are shaped and angled differently inside so sex positions that work for one person don't do it for another. Experimentation is the best way to find out!
I find riding my man is the best way not only to be in control - but also to get deep into me, since I can press down very hard and he can push up; another bonus is I always cum this way!
9 Doggy style sex positions, with me having my head down on the bed and my ass in the air is good for deep penetration, and it makes me feel very wicked indeed, exposing my rear end for a good hard session till he comes deep in me...going weak at the knees thinking about it, and juicy too!
Woman on top is also good when I have my legs up to his shoulders, but I find it tiring. For anyone over fifty, this sex position may not be so good.
Rear entry sex doesn't work for me. I like man on top or missionary position, with my legs very wide and my hips lifted up on a pillow or cushion.
In this way, my head and shoulders are flat on the bed, hips and bottom lifted high. He can plumb my depths during sex!
These positions make it easier for me to control my vaginal muscles this way and I can really squeeze my vagina on his cock and even move my clitoris up.
G'Day All, I'm a 19 year old male from Australia and have a strange question. My penis size is about 7 inches (not too bad I think) and I wonder if a women could take it all, so my question is, how deep is a woman's vagina?
1 According to some research, the vagina is around 4 inches long. It's hard to understand where the penis goes, because a 7 inch one for example usually has no problem in this area, at least with me. I think almost every woman can take such a length.
However, my man is 11 inches long when erect, so I tend to avoid all the sexual positions described above. I sometimes take him - but it hurts a little.
A good one is to have him lying on his back on the bed and for me to lie on top of him, facing the same way (upwards!) and then for him to enter me between my legs - he can't get into me as deeply, but the pressure of my thighs makes it feel for him like his penis is completely surrounded by my body.
Another deep penetration position for sexual intercourse (I'm not sure if anyone mentioned it) is missionary with my legs on his shoulders.
Editor's note: The average vagina is about four inches when resting and unaroused - and up to six when its owner is sexually aroused - but the penis slides under the cervix during intercourse because the uterus is pulled upwards (when a woman is lying on her back) so the vagina is effectively longer than six inches in this position at least.
2 I find that the spoons position is best for sexual intercourse, and it gets me in really deep. I just get my partner to lie on her side, then I mould myself to her back so that my front is against her back in the typical spoons position.
I then prop open my top leg up with my foot on the bed and she and rests her top leg on my top leg, that has the bonus of opening her vulva up wide and so I am able to enter her and, joy of joys, I can also reach around with my hand and massage her clit as I fuck her. It is better than doggy style because doggy is sort of thrusting straight in and out.
3 I find because I have a long cock, this can sometimes bang against her cervix which isn't so comfortable. In my recommended sexual position, the head of my penis massages the front inner wall of her vagina (against the G spot area) and because it is moving on this area, it won't catch the cervix.
As a variation, we also use a battery operated clitoral stimulator as we make love, so while I fuck her deeply, it is almost guaranteed to make her orgasm as we fuck, at which point I thrust in deeply and come myself....oh wow.....does that feel good!
4 Try standard missionary but make these changes: have one of the man's legs over one of hers, so that he's slightly off to one side of her body, and slightly higher up; that way you'll find that you don't bash bodies at the top of the stroke, and can the man push up a lot further inside her. I find this feels much deeper than rear entry sex.....definitely worth a try.
5 When my girlfriend and I have sex, we usually just use the man on top position but she pulls her thighs up towards her chest. This means I can go pretty deep.
Unlike rear entry sex, it also allows you to pleasure your woman by kissing her or touching or sucking and kissing her breasts. Of course rear entry sex positions do allow you to go deeper but if you have a longish erect penis, it might cause more pain.
My girlfriend doesn't like doggy style sex because of that problem.
6 Missionary position - but with my legs wide open and him more upright, leaning forward as in in the picture below, and with my legs on his shoulders - and rear entry of course!
7 My husband is endowed very short (his cock is 4 inches erect), but he has a very very thick shaft, almost as big around as the diameter of my wrist....I am sitting with my feet on the floor, or lying back on the bed with my feet on the floor (we enjoy both variations), at the corner of the bed with him standing in front of me, then he raises my legs and pushes inside.
This lets him go deep and he pushes with his legs to get extra power into his thrusts and fills me full.....I think he just stretches me so wide that it produces such a full feeling.........
8 For extremely deep penetration, I get on top of my man with my back facing him. I lean towards his feet and then hold onto the lower part of his legs near his ankles. I can control how fast we make love and deep he goes into me and of course he gets to enjoy looking at me from behind.
When we're just about on the point of cumming I sit myself up straight and it then feels like his penis goes right through me...it's heaven for us both.
9 I am a virgin, and the truth is I can't wait to be penetrated, and deeply penetrated at that! I want him to go into me as far as he can. I don't know how to choose the best sex position for me so this is a helpful thread.
10 The man you sleep with will love to hear you say that when you make love to him!
Rear entry positions, and man on top with legs on the shoulders are undoubtedly the best ways to achieve full penetration. However, some of the women I've had in various sexual positions haven't been able to take more than about 15-16 cm of cock.
Of course that feels good, and there's nothing better than thrusting balls-deep into tight, wet, hot pussy. If I have to bother about controlling my strokes so as not to go too deep then sex isn't the most fun.
11 Rear entry, doggy style, woman with her legs on my shoulders, and probably legs spread wide in the standard missionary position are, in my experience, the best sex positions for deep penetration.
12 I like doggy style. My wife likes it too but she really likes being on top, because she can move in her own way and that lets her vary the penetration which she loves. I mean she takes me deep for a while and then she'll move so she takes about only half of it with short slow movements. She seems to like that a lot. A while back she suggested I put a pillow under my ass when she's on top - that means she can get deeper penetration.
Have the woman sitting on top with both facing the same direction frontwards. For added excitement, make sure his arms and legs are tied to each bed post before you start! Free him only when he begs!
13 My wife likes doggie style, but she likes it even more when we lay on our sides. She says I can get in deeper and she feels more of my penis inside her when she lays on her side. we love these two positions. They are great for deep penetration.
14 I like doggy style very much. It's probably the best sex position for the deepest penetration. I also like being in charge during woman on top but I always have him place a pillow under his ass cheeks since this raises his pelvis. I can then grind on him and I always take advantage of his full length in this way. And since I am very small and light, being on top is even better fun.
15 I'm glad I found this thread. A great idea is to use a pillow to raise my butt when my wife is riding me during woman on top sex - that will let me get deeper into her for sure. She loves doggy style too. The more I grind into her, the more she likes it. She is a small and rather petite girl also so it's easy to change her position. I'm going to try that pillow idea asap, and see how she likes it!
16 I might have missed
the reasons, but what's such a big deal with deep penetration anyhow?
They say it's
the first two or three inches of the vagina which have most nerve
endings and are the most sensitive