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The attractiveness of rear entry sex is its animalistic lustfulness. It comes nearer to sex as it would once have been for our ancestors, than any other position, and it's certainly a powerful stimulus for the man, with the site of the woman's bottom, her cheeks parted to allow his penis entry to her body. Certainly men are turned on by this more than just about anything else, and they tend to come most quickly when having sex in this position. What of women's enjoyment? Opinion seems to be split roughly down the middle - some love it, and some hate it, a division which probably reflects whether or not an individual woman feels like a sex object rather than a loved partner when she gets into this position.

But assuming that a couple want to do it, what advantages does it have? First of all, a man has lots of flexibility in how he moves, and the type of thrusts he can make. He can move deeply or not as he chooses, and he can watch himself as he goes in and out of her vagina, which can be a powerful turn-on. And his female partner can move her hips in all kinds of ways, so she can either remain still as he thrusts, or she can meet his movements with back and forward thrusts of her pelvis. If the man chooses to lean forward and embrace his partner, he can use one hand to caress her stomach and breasts and he can always reach around and tease her clitoris. He can also see her bottom, which is a very powerful sexual stimulus for most men, and he has free access to her anus, which may be exciting if a couple like anal play.

Alternatively the man may remain still and allow his female partner to thrust her hips back and forwards along his penis - a unique kind of movement which is very different and exciting for the man, hinting at his partner's eagerness to embrace his penis. 

If a couple think rear entry isn't a very intimate sex position there are ways to make it seem less lustful. A mirror placed strategically in front of the couple will allow the man and woman to look into each other's eyes and establish greater connection - apart from which, the experience of watching their lovemaking can very sexy in itself.

A lot of couples find that the man slips out when they make love this way - this has nothing to do with the size of his penis! The man needs to learn to establish a slow steady rhythm and control the depth of his strokes so that he does not slip out as he thrusts. And if the woman moves her hips as well, it may take a little time for the couple to learn a comfortable rhythm. But the results are well worth it!

The rear entry sex position described - basic rear entry

The woman lies on her stomach or kneels on all fours, with her lover kneeling behind her. (A standing variation is described below.) He can place his legs inside or outside hers, and then he inserts his penis. This may take a little orientation until he is used to the angle, and the woman may need to raise or lower her hips to the right height so that he can easily get into her vagina; once he's in, she may wish to close or tighten her legs so as to increase the friction and grip on his penis. He can thrust away as slowly or as quickly as he likes, and either grip her pelvis or reach around and play with her breasts and clitoris. Deep thrusting is particularly easy, and the man can stimulate the upper inside wall of the vagina, where the G-spot is located, in a way he cannot in other positions. The intensity of the experience means that a man will come quickly and so it can be a good way to finish making love after the woman has had her orgasm and the man is ready to enjoy his.

Variations on the basic rear entry

The man standing

A very arousing and powerful position for the man. This is certainly in the top ten favorite positions for men.

The woman lies on the bed with the man on top of her

Again, like all these positions, there are many small variations that a couple can discover for themselves, and which may add a whole new dimension to the experience. It's all about the angle of the penis in the vagina, and, for the man, his ability to see his partner from the rear and take pleasure in the sheer male lustfulness of this act. This positions is a good one for a quick fuck - a man's lustful need to have a simple, straightforward fuck from time to time is often overlooked! It may be easier to make love successfully in this position if the woman has a pillow under her hips so as to raise them a bit for the man to gain easier entry to her vagina.

Rear entry - sitting

You can do this in a chair, with the man sitting down and the woman on top of him, facing away (or even towards, though of course that is hardly rear entry). Or you can do it as shown in the picture below. It's a very restful position for both man and woman, and the female can move as quickly or as slowly as she wishes, either  thrusting her hips up and down, or in a circular pattern, or in a gentle rocking motion. The depth and speed of lovemaking are under her control. A nice, gentle position, especially good when either partner is not strong or is disabled.

A man's viewpoint

Well, it's just too exciting! The sight of my penis going in and out of her vagina, glistening with her juices, her buttocks framing the whole scene, as she bends down in this most unambiguous gesture of sexual invitation, tends to make me ejaculate more quickly than any other position. It's just so, well, lewd and base - but by that I don't mean anything negative. Over the years I've heard several women describe rear entry sex as "dirty", and while I know some of them have meant sexy, raunchy and arousing (especially when they're horny), I also think others have meant just what they said - dirty, debasing, animalistic. Shame, really, because I doubt any man would ever think in those terms. It's my guess that most men just get too aroused when rear entry's on the menu to think clearly about the politics and gender roles involved - when their partner bends forwards, exposing her vulva, with a look of invitation on her face, they just want to fuck her! 

I just wonder if many women really appreciate the degree of sexual desire and arousal that the majority of men have to live with for most of the time. Sure, women know men want sex a lot, and usually more often than a woman wants it: this widely accepted fact has become the subject of many jokes, more or less well-intentioned, about men's sexual appetite over the years, but it doesn't convey the internal male sexual experience to a woman. And how can either gender ever understand the other's thoughts and feelings about sex? Maybe they can't, but I think we can get some clues from the differences in attitude between men and women towards rear entry sex. 

I would venture that most women only want rear entry sex when they are feeling very horny or when they want to please their boyfriend. They may not fully understand why he wants to fuck them in this way so badly, but they know it's important to him and they get pleasure from his satisfaction. I'd say the horniness which women experience from time to time, especially around ovulation (so I'm led to believe), the horniness which is likely to make them act more sexually, and to want to fuck, rather than to make love, is the nearest they can get to an insight into men's sexuality. Perhaps women need to appreciate that for men sexual desire is like that a great deal of the time. This is not to claim that all men constantly feel horny, but it's true that most men feel very horny  for a significant proportion of their lives. That's what makes us want to fuck you from behind, upside down and sideways, but especially from behind, because it's just so intensely arousing for us; and we men, believe it or not, like to be intensely aroused, have sex, ejaculate and feel the relief....not that this relief may last very long, of course.

Having said that, women tend to get more aroused during sex even if they don't feel especially aroused beforehand, and this is particularly true if their lover is skillful and caring enough to spend enough time on foreplay; by contrast, men can become more emotional and loving during sex (though probably not during rear entry sex, which is much more a physical experience). Men can connect with their feelings of love during more tender sex, such as you get making love in the man on top, the woman on top, and, especially, the side by side positions. You know what? That old cliché about men wanting sex and through it feeling their love for their partner, while women give sex to men so as to be loved, might just have some truth in it!

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Sex positions: rear entry

Extracts from the internet forums reproduced here to help you get good at sex positions!

Question: I am much taller than my girl, and although we have been trying sex for two months in a variety of positions, we just cannot seem to get it right. What sexual positions should we use? What sex positions will help two people who are so different in size? 

Answers:  Well, first of all you will need to enjoy lots of foreplay. Sex isn't just a matter of sexual positions, or finding the right sex positions, it's much more about finding an emotional connection. So if you need some ideas, try looking on good informational sites like www.myvag.net Next, if she is dry, try using lots of lube on her vulva - this needs to be water based lube, and you can have her lie on her back while you massage her whole vulva. If you are going to give her oral sex in these positions, you need to make sure you do it before giving her the massage with your hands, because lube can taste unpleasant. Most women find kissing a very romantic and lovely thing, and if it is done tenderly, it can be very arousing. Once she is ready you need to find the best sexual positions for you. Each couple will have their own favorite sexual positions. These are determined by the shape, size and angle of the vagina and erect penis. But for a couple with height differences, the best solution may be the woman on top sex positions. Pain during penetration may mean his penis is hitting the wall of her cervix - this can cause discomfort and maybe a bit of bleeding too. The solution to that is more shallow penetration. In the woman on top sex positions, the woman can control the depth and speed of penetration. Spooning or side-by-side sex positions allow for more shallow penetration because her ass stops you getting close enough to penetrate her deeply. 

Make sure that she is ready for penetration, whatever positions you are using. If you can gently insert two or three fingers into her vagina, then she is relaxed and ready for sex. Other signs are that she will move her hips in a thrusting or rocking motion. Actually, once you get used to the signs, it is quite easy to tell when your girl wants you inside her. Generally when she wants you in there, she will be wet enough, but you can always add some lube if necessary. 

Question: My wife just won't let me try the doggy style sex position. Why? We have sex in lots of other positions all the time, but this one she won't even consider.

Answers:  Some women don't like such sex positions because they seem impersonal, animalistic, or lewd. Others may not like these sexual positions because they think their body is fat, their ass is too big, or their thighs are too flabby. Such worries, whether a man understands them or not, will stop a woman enjoying sex. Loads of reassurance may help if those are the reasons why a woman doesn't like doggy style. 

Also, doggy style positions can be impersonal. If a woman has a more romantic nature and isn't really into raw, passionate sex, then doggy style may not suit her at all. These positions may make here feel like she is being treated as a sex object. And women in these positions may feel that they are not in control, that there is an element of sex being purely for the man's gratification. A belief that doggy style positions are demeaning to women can run rather deep, and it's likely to prevent a woman enjoying sex. 

If the man has a large penis, doggy style positions can be painful because he penetrates deeply enough to hit her uterus or cervix. If this is the problem, shallow thrusting may help, though men do tend to get carried away during rear entry sex. These positions are very arousing for men, because he can see the woman's ass with his penis thrusting in and out between her butt cheeks. Try asking your wife what she thinks of various sex positions, and why doggy style positions are such a problem for her. Communication is important in sex, so maybe you aren't talking enough. Lastly, what about trying side by side sex positions with you lying behind her? You are almost doing it from behind, but there's more intimacy and closeness.

Good things about doggie style sex positions for a woman: It allows deep penetration, which some women enjoy. His penis may stimulate her G spot, which is great for vaginal orgasm. He (or she) can reach her clitoris and play with it during sex. These positions allow him to thrust and play with her clitoris at the same time. These are also great positions for using a vibrator because her  clitoris is so accessible. For women who want to feel rude and dirty during sex, doggy style is great - in these positions, she can really tantalize and titillate her man by waving her butt around and acting dirty - such play can be very arousing for both partners, and it is guaranteed to get the man going! 

Here's a useful article: Better Sex Through Communication. It discusses some different ways to approach your partner about ideas and the different obstacles you may face and why. Communication is so vital for a happy sex life. Check it out.