More about side by side sex positions
For men: In all the surveys of the most
popular sex positions, side by side sex comes way down the list. Maybe this is
because it's actually quite difficult to get your penis into a woman's vagina
when you're lying side by side!
 For
one thing, it's a lot easier if you actually have a large penis: if you have,
you can maneuver into the correct position without too much difficulty. If
you're on the less well-endowed side, then arranging yourselves so that
penetration is smooth and elegant is more challenging!
 The
way to approach side by side sex is to first decide if you are going for a
frontal or a rear approach - either is possible, and both have their advantages
and disadvantages.
Penetration from the rear in this sexual position
gives you the ability to fondle her breasts and clitoris during sex, as well as
have the pleasure of her buttocks nestle into your testicles as you make love -
a very satisfying experience.
 It
also allows you to see the enjoyable sight of your penis entering your partner's
body - which can be extremely exciting and arousing (though it might make you
come too quickly!)
 Having
said that, if you can achieve penetration and find a comfortable position, this
is potentially a very satisfying sexual position. It's important to note that
even though websites like this one offer all kinds of advice and suggestions
about how you might enjoy sex more, what actually counts more in the end is the
enjoyment and pleasure you get from sex, regardless of the position! (And please
do read the text below, because the frontal side by side position is very good
for men who tend to come quickly - it prolongs intercourse, because there's less
pressure on your penis in this position, yet the orgasm you'll eventually enjoy
is just as satisfying it is in the man on top position.)
For women: Although it is not illustrated
above, the frontal side by side position - where you can look at each other,
lying on your sides chest to chest, facing each other - can be more enjoyable
than the slightly less intimate position shown above: unless, of course, you are
looking for a good, hard bout of boisterous sex, in which case the position
shown in the photographs above may be more to your taste!
The frontal side by side sex position, is a
position in which to enjoy slow, romantic and loving sexual intercourse. To get
into this position, the easiest way is to start from the man on top missionary
position. Decide which way you are going to roll over onto your sides, and then
move the leg which will be underneath your man and you when you have rolled over
upwards so that your combined weight when you roll over to that side will be
positioned on your thigh. Then, simply roll over without withdrawing his penis
from your vagina, and you have a perfectly relaxing position for sex: you can
look each other in the eyes, caress closely or separate your upper bodies so
that he can admire your breasts (and give them the attention they deserve!).
To add to the romance of this position, you can
kiss and caress each other, stroking each other's buttocks, back and chests as
you wish, with the added advantage that you can each reach down and play with
his penis and balls as well as your vulva and clitoris, as he thrusts into and
out of your vagina. The feel of his penis sliding in and out of your vagina, wet
with your juices, pushing into you as deeply as he can go, is a tremendously
exciting one!
All in all, this sexual
position is an exciting and satisfying one, and it deserves to feature
more highly on people's lists of favorites than it does. It has other
advantages too - it assists in
delaying ejaculation, producing less pressure on the man's penis than some
other ways of making love.
Side by side sex positions developed
The side by side sex position, lying facing
each other on your sides, can be the least tiring of all the sexual positions.
If you want to start making love in the side by
side position, rather than move into it by rolling over from the man on top,
start with the man lying on his right side facing his partner, who lies turned
towards him on her left side. She then raises her lower leg, the one on the
bed, and passes it over his lower leg, bending it a little at the knee and
pushing her thigh high up between the man's. He then passes his upper leg over
her lower leg at the same time maneuvering his penis into line with her vagina
entrance.
The woman will nearly always have to help his
penis into her vagina; as soon as the man feels the warm softness of her
vagina around his penis, he thrusts his upper leg as far over as it will go,
which pushes his penis deeper into her. She then passes her upper leg over his
upper leg, bending it so that, if possible, she can take a purchase with the
crook of her knee on the man's hipbone.
 If all
this makes this sex position sound difficult if not impossible to get into,
then simply start in the man on top
or missionary position, and roll over onto your sides: in practice the right side is
generally preferred for the woman, which, of course, implies the left
side for the man. This position requires that the woman draws up the leg on which she is lying. The leg
which lies uppermost can either be stretched or flexed at will.
Increase or decrease of the feminine (or masculine) pelvic angles allows
you to find many variations here.
The principal advantages of
this sexual posture are convenience and ease, relaxation, comfort, and a
much slower progress to orgasm for the man (although because friction
tends to be reduced on his erection, he may also feel less pleasure
when he comes), and avoidance of the pressure of his weight on her body.
The drawbacks arise
from the localized pressure on the woman's legs - and even this can be
avoided by approaching the normal horizontal position or through extreme
flexion and lifting of the captive limb. To some degree, also, the
man is immobilized and has less freedom to operate in this position.
You may find that you end up with the man lying more on his back than on his
side, and his penis may not be very far into his partner. If the tip of the
penis can get even a short way past the vaginal entrance, so that the head and
none of the shaft penetrates the vagina and can be withdrawn and then put back
again, sensations are produced in the woman which are quite unlike any other;
the man, too, enjoys the feeling of his glans rubbing against the soft tissues
of the vaginal entrance. But because there is much less pressure on his penis
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The mutual sensations experienced in this position
are like no other, except perhaps in the man on top position for intercourse
when the man arches his back and holds his pubic area away from his partner's
so that only the head of his penis goes in and out of her vaginal entrance.
This movement, however, is tiring, whereas the thrust and withdrawal in the
side-by-side position produces no physical strain. But one big drawback is
that there can be so much lubricating fluid produced in this sexual position that the
penis loses friction with the vagina at the very moment the man is reaching
the point of orgasm and ejaculation, with reduced sensation for one or both
partners as a result.
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