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Discovering More About Tantric Sex
You can try the next step of the
process either alone or with your partner. The essence of the exercise is to
masturbate to orgasm, but to do it with intention and focus, so that you are
aware of more than just the physical pleasure and physical sensations you
receive. This is about being aware of the energy flows that lie behind your
orgasm and ejaculation. As you masturbate to orgasm, you can imagine the
energy flow from your pelvic chakra going up your spine and into your body,
and you can help this visualization by seeing in your mind's eye a pump at the
base of your spine pumping energy upwards as you ejaculate. With each muscular
contraction you can see the pump working, and you can also clench your
buttocks to enhance the sensations and the visualization.
As you do this, focus on the
energy rather than the pleasure you are feeling. The ancient Tantric teachers
suggested that masturbation was an excellent way to get in touch with the
sensations of your body and its capacity to generate energy flow around the
body - and this is something you now have the chance to experience for
yourself. There is no particular prescription as to how you should masturbate
to orgasm - simply do it in the way that suits you best and which you find
most enjoyable, but remember that the basis of this work is to learn more
about the flow of sexual energy around your body.
If you're a woman, think of the
pump as being located in your vagina: as you go through the sensations of
orgasm, repeatedly contract and relax (i.e. pump) the muscles of your vagina,
and as you do so, imagine that the energy is being pumped along your body at
the front (men imagine this going up the spine).
It's always a good idea to open
your chakras before you start so that the energy flow will take place more
readily, and there is a prepared, open pathway for the energy flow to move
along. And don't believe stories you may have heard about Kundalini being
dangerous. This is untrue, as the energy will only move at the pace that is
right for you and which your body can handle. According to how satisfying,
interesting and enhancing of your sex life you find these exercises, you may
choose to continue, stop or put them on hold for a while. You are always in
control.
Or are you? The Tantric experts
have always known that that passion can strike without warning from time to
time, and this may well happen to you and your partner at some point as you
practice these exercises. If so, there is no harm in giving way to your
passion. While the focus is on sexual spirituality and learning more about
your body's capacity for enlightenment., there is no harm in allowing the more
earthly pleasures of rumbustious sex to take precedence from time to time!
Above all, don't take this too
seriously. It's not a religious rite or a trial of self-discipline. The
ancient Tantric practitioners would have whole-heartedly agreed that fun and
pleasure were an equally essential and valuable part of the human sexual
experience.
If you're going to do this with a
partner, take it in turns. First of all have the man stimulate the woman while
she relaxes and enjoys the sensations of the sexual energy flowing through her
body. You can go all the way to orgasm if that's what you want to do: when she
reaches orgasm, she should focus on pumping her sexual energy as previously
described. After her orgasm, she can focus on the energy flow around her body;
when she's satisfied that she's gained as much insight into her sexual
experience as possible, she can return the favor for her male partner.
It may take a few attempts before
you become truly attuned to the energy flow. It may take a little longer for
you to learn how to promote the flow of energy around your body during sex.
But the great thing about these exercises is that you can truly enjoy them
while you practice!
Couples sometimes like to try
masturbating each other simultaneously. This isn't a bad idea, but it is a
little impractical in the context of these exercises. Mutual masturbation can
be distracting - you have to focus on both your own energy and that of your
partner as you approach orgasm. So best leave that until you have a little
more practice and you're a little more aware of the energy flow as you reach
orgasm.
An interesting variation on the them is for you both to site with your backs
against each other as you both masturbate to orgasm. When you reach orgasm,
try the "pump" technique: and see if you can feel your partner's energy rising
as you feel your own. Remember that if you don't feel anything , it isn't
important - your awareness will develop at the right rate for you!
Next we will look at how we can exchange sexual energy
with our partners.
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