Sex Techniques and Positions

Sex Positions You Might Want To Try

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Sex Positions You Might Want To Try

Tantric traditions specified positions that would lead to better sex. The Tantric tradition approved of experimentation and made it clear that a primary objective of coitus was sexual pleasure - so trying out different positions until you find ones that are comfortable and offer you the greatest sexual satisfaction is not a new idea!

We tend to think that the Kama Sutra and other pillow books revealed sex secrets which are somehow not available to us today. There is some truth in that, in the sense that the pictures of lovers in those books were not about titillation, they were designed for lovers so that they could look at, discuss, and experiment with various sex positions without embarrassment. Insofar as our inhibitions keep us from trying new positions, then we deprive ourselves of the possibility of greater sexual pleasure.

Furthermore, trying out different positions will always enable you to adopt loving positions for sex, positions in which you can  embrace and caress each other with more affection or more intimately. While you might therefore assume that the focus was on sex, another view is that the focus is on love, and it is certainly true that having a loving partner with whom you can experiment can be more rewarding than trying these positions with casual sexual partners. The added dimension of love and intimacy provides a deeper connection than pure physical pleasure, rewarding though that can be.

One of the major variations in the positions was how deep the man thrust his penis into his partner. Certainly this can change the nature of all sexual positions, giving greater or lesser satisfaction; clearly this is a fertile area for experimentation. The most famous sex "pillow book", the Kama Sutra, describes about twenty basic positions, all exotically named, with countless variations!

Positions With The Man On Top

It may seem very boring to start with the man on top but we do know that more people enjoy making love in this position than in any other. We've listed all the benefits of the man on top position elsewhere on this site - see for example, the basic sex positions pages, or the advanced information - so we won't especially focus on that again here. Our objective is much more about illustrating the positions which were highlighted in these ancient texts, all of which have held men and women's interest (and excited them before sexual intercourse) down the centuries.

Widely opened woman

Starting in the missionary position, the woman puts her knees outside the man's thighs, before arching her back. The man supports his weight on his arms and knees. If she is fit enough and supple enough, she should lift her buttocks off the bed and then open her legs wide to invite deep penetration by her partner. For less fit couples, a pillow under her buttocks may help them to enjoy sex in this position. The other great advantage of this position is that the woman's clitoris is easily accessible to both partners, so she can most likely enjoy an orgasm while making love.

Yawning

In this variation, the woman lies on her back and raises her legs as high as possible, the man kneeling before her. She places her ankles or calves against his shoulders, and he penetrates her in a kneeling position. This is a very exciting and arousing position for the man as it gives him a clear view of their lovemaking, and allows him to watch himself penetrating his partner.

If the woman prefers or finds it more comfortable, she can lower her legs and clasp her partner around his waist.

High yawning

A very popular sexual position with those who love deep penetration, this variation on the man on top has the woman drawing her knees back towards her chest. the man straightens his legs and takes his weight on his arms, perhaps with the woman's feet resting on his shoulders. 

The Sex Position for the Consort of India

A favorite position of the Hindu god of Thunder! This sex position has the woman lying down on her back with her knees tightly together, pulled up as high as her breasts, while the man kneels in front of her and enters her. The woman can rest the soles of her feet against his chest. He can clasp her around the thighs or buttocks, and play with her clitoris as they enjoy sex. If she pulls her knees even further up and varies the closeness of her legs, he will feel the tension in her vagina - which is likely to make him ejaculate quickly unless he has excellent self-control!

A variation of this sex position has the woman relaxing her legs rather than pressing them together closely, so that her knees fall out to her sides. This allows the man to caress her feet and legs and strokes her ankles, perhaps even sucking on her toes if he so desires.

The Clasping Position

For an embrace in which little thrusting is possible but which allows intimacy and closeness while the man's penis is in his partner's vagina, the couple start to enjoy intercourse in the usual missionary position, and then intertwine their legs, and intertwine their arms. This is more a position in which to feel the energy of sex rather than to enjoy the movements associated with intercourse. It's very intimate and can feel even more loving if the couple have made a heart-to-heart connection before sex.

The Side Clasping Position

What we would call a side by side position - a simple position, but very rewarding in many ways, starts with the couple lying on their sides facing each other. To allow her man access to her vagina, the woman lifts her upper leg and he penetrates her. They can then fondle and caress each other, paying attention to each others' erogenous zones (his breasts, anus, buttocks, testicles and belly, and her breasts, clitoris, belly, buttocks and thighs).

Twinning

The "twinning" position for sex again starts in the conventional man on top position. Once the couple are in this position, the woman brings one of her legs around the back of his thighs to draw her man in towards her; she can also hold him around his neck to draw his face closer to hers. In another variation, the woman can place both her legs around the man's thighs to draw him closer towards her as they have sex. An intimate position which some men like because they get the sense that their partner is drawing them in during intercourse and that she does not want him to move away. This enhances the feeling of intimacy.