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Tantric Sex Techniques and Positions - the basics

10 Rules To Avoid Bad Sex! Advice For Women!

Never, ever, have sex with your ex-partner

You split up with this person, for reasons that deep down are very clear to you, so don't think that getting back together in the sack will be simple. On the contrary, it's likely to bring up all kinds of feelings you thought you'd got over - and it'll do the same for your ex-lover, which might be more of a problem. Breaking up is hard enough without making it even harder by prolonging the agony. Sex won't just be a simple matter of physical pleasure or warm loving feelings, it will be a tormented rekindling of all the feelings you went through when you broke up, and probably some of those you felt before.....

Don't tell your current partner about your previous sexual partners

Why would you do this? A friendly discussion over a cup of tea about how many sexual partners you've had, and what you did with them, and even how they compared as lovers with your current partner......it's not a recipe for a happy evening, is it? In fact it's hard to think of anything you could say about your previous partners which would add sexual or emotional excitement to your current relationship (except possibly that your current lover is infinitely better than any previous lover you've ever had). In short, the bottom line is that few people, male or female, like to imagine their current partner having sex with a previous partner, and mentioning them is likely to cause jealousy. If you're having a good relationship now, why would you need to hark back to the past, anyway?

Don't take naked photos of each other unless you really trust your partner

You would think that most people had the sense to draw the line at allowing their partner to take naked pictures of them, but apparently not.....they still get sent all over the internet. Truly, the wrath of a jilted partner who thinks they have been treated unfairly knows no limits, and you can be sure of this: if they are feeling spiteful, the images of you doing interesting things with yourself, your vibrator, or your partner (or that carton of cream and strawberries) will soon be appearing on any number of amateur photo sites. If you must let them take pictures just keep the memory card under lock and key, alright?

Never talk to him like he's one of your girlfriends

Sex has a different emphasis for men and women; for women, whatever else it may be, it is certainly something to chat around, to explore together, to get a frisson of excitement from the sharing of the details. But one fact you may not know about men is that they rarely discuss the details of sex between themselves when they are together in a pair or a group. So he's not going to admire you when you spill the beans on what you heard in your girly group, and even if he seems interested, you're likely to lose his respect - and, more to the point, he'll be wondering just what you're telling your friends about your bedtime antics.

Never ask him if his cock is in yet

You wouldn't think it could happen, would you.....and yet, I have it on good evidence that some women have actually asked this question! Whether they do this out of spite or out of genuine ignorance, it's a pretty dumb thing to say, being first an insult and second a reflection of his sexual incompetence - at least as the woman sees it. Maybe it's more of a reflection of the size of her pussy, or the huge amount of lube she's producing, than the size of his manhood. This mirrors a man asking a woman if she's come during sex yet. It's insulting.

"I'll pull out" is the most unlikely statement ever uttered by man

If you're a woman, the thing you have to remember is that Mother Nature doesn't actually want him to spill his seed on your belly, the bed, the carpet or even in your hair. Mother Nature wants it in your pussy. That's how you get pregnant, and that's what Mother Nature wants to happen. He's not going to win this battle, at least not all of the time, because his urge to ejaculate inside a woman is so, so strong.....therefore, use a condom. If he doesn't have one handy, then let him masturbate himself or do it for him....and don't be swayed by the argument that his balls will turn blue and explode. They won't. And remember also that a condom is needed to protect you from both sexual diseases which can shrivel your insides and cause you great discomfort, as well as stray sperm in his precum, which can of course make you pregnant even if he does pull out in time.

Never imply your vibrator can make you come faster than he can

If you're a woman, you may actually have a problem with his desire or ability to make you come, but if you do, the way to deal with it is to train him in how to do the job - and, if he won't, get a new lover. It's never a good idea to start telling him that your vibrator does a better job than he can, even if that's true. In any case, if that's the level of sophistication which your relationship has reached, then perhaps you should actually consider getting a new lover anyway.

Don't discuss your previous lover's sexual skills

How do you feel when this subject comes up? Jealous, I would imagine. And that's how most people feel, in fact. The name of a lover, let alone what they did in bed, is not something that anyone likes to hear too much about; in fact most people don't want to hear anything about it at all. Indeed, if you find yourself tempted to raise the subject, maybe you need to seriously consider just what it is that you're trying to achieve, since raising this can affect your partner's sexual self-confidence and leave them unwilling to go to bed with you (or in a man's case, unable to get an erection).

Don't share your sexual fantasies - at least, not too much!

Fantasies are generally a good thing, in the sense that if you and your partner act them out, you're most likely to enjoy a more uninhibited sex life, a more open attitude to sex, and more honest communication. However, the danger is that fantasies can start to take over and become necessary for sexual arousal to happen at all....which is not good, since a good sex life (and that means one where the man has reliable erections) requires that the primary focus of your sexual arousal be the sight, sound, scent, touch and taste of your partner.

Never give head when he's driving

Though it may sound funny, loads of couples do it.....and loads of accidents happen. Even death....though the coroner's report might make amusing reading. If you're super-charged with sexual desire, you just can't wait, and you simply have to make sex a bit more exciting, get into a field, a wood, a car park, a stair-well, somewhere where you at least have a chance of privacy, before you strip off and fuck. This kind of outdoor sex can be fun, arousing and exciting (the risk of discovery adds to the excitement), but at least protect yourselves so you don't end up in a widely published sex scandal on the front page of the newspaper.....