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Sex tips 6 - Your advice on the best sex positions

There's a lot of advice on this site about sex positions from your editors - and we diligently pursue a lot of practical research to bring you the best information! - but now we want you to contribute your thoughts about sex, how different sex positions help or hinder your enjoyment, and what you really want from sex. If you'd like to contribute, please email us at

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Here are the first batch of responses we've received.

Anna says:

Women, forget the emphasis on sex positions! Instead make sex truly satisfying for your man using your feminine sexual skills. These are more about technique than positions.

By the way, if you as a woman are having trouble reaching orgasm, in other words you experience what is known as anorgasmia, then you have can sort this out and increase both your orgasmic pleasure and his. If you want to know how to come during sex, in other words, how to have an orgasm during sex, you may find the information here helpful

Women need to remember that for men, truly satisfying sex is about one thing - the certainty of penetration and ejaculation. I know this may be an old-fashioned way of thinking, but if we're honest about it, that's the way men work. They love the thrill of entry to a woman's body, and the unmatched sense of sexual excitement as they ejaculate inside her. It's what men are programmed to do; and if we are being honest about it, then sex positions are only a small part of the road to sexual success! But we also need to accept that women are programmed to be receptive, to want penetration, and if you don't want it, then knowing all the sex positions in the world won't make much difference to our enjoyment. You need to think what's wrong with your relationship. The answer, most likely, is that your man's not being loving enough. But that's another story. Let's suppose you are in a relationship where things are going well, your man is sensitive and loving, he's romantic enough to make you desire him, and you want to give him pleasure.

What are the best sex positions to do this? And what are the best sexual techniques to give him pleasure?

Remember, for a man, sex is most complete and satisfying if he has a sense of penetration. So what he'll want to do most of the time is press his penis into your body and ejaculate. But he will enjoy this more if you spin the process out. You can best do this if you're in the woman on top position. Get him going by brushing your vulva over his erect cock as he lies on his back. Turn around, so your buttocks and vulva hang over his face as you slowly give him oral sex, or masturbate him with a feather touch (use your saliva for lubrication). Let him lick you if he wants. Sexually tease him in this position for long enough and he'll be dying to get his penis into you - and you can savor the sexual power you hold, knowing it's your desirability that got him so hard and horny!

So turn around, lower yourself onto him and let his penis  enter you just a fraction. Then tease him even further into a state of desperate sexual desire by letting his penis enter you just a bit in this position, then even as he begins to enjoy the pleasure, change position slightly so that his penis comes out of you. Then press yourself on him again, slowly allowing him to penetrate your vagina once again. This position is ideal for slow, long-drawn out pleasure. Keep the shallow thrusts going, with a deep thrust interspersed every so often, and you can excite him beyond belief. When he's had enough excitement, and he's really groaning with pleasure, ride him hard and fast to a dramatic climax. If he is prone to premature ejaculation, you may find this helps him last longer during sex.

For men who are suffering form some kind of erection problem, it may be necessary to cure erectile dysfunction or treat their erection problems before exploring sexual techniques.

Next - a woman talks about her self-consciousness in the woman on top position

Vicky says:

Some women simply do not feel comfortable about taking the sexual initiative or adopting the woman on top position while making love.

There can be all kinds of reasons for this and no one should feel forced into doing something which makes them feel ill at ease.  If it is simply embarrassment, it is worth gathering the confidence to give it a try, and almost certainly your man will love the new variation and the chance to lie back and enjoy sex. If, however, he insists on always taking the dominant sexual role, this may be a symptom of a deeper problem within your relationship. No woman should allow herself to feel sexually repressed, and if she feels that she is, the couple may benefit from talking the issues over carefully, or seeking advice from a relationship counselor.

A woman may be reluctant to try the woman-on-top sex positions because of a sense of low self-esteem regarding her body. Perhaps she is shy to expose it so boldly to her partner, or maybe she feels overweight and too heavy to climb on top of her man. Most women make critical judgments about their bodies, but more often than not these views are not shared by their partners. Feeling good about your body is more to do with your self-regard than your actual weight. You can be big and beautiful or thin and beautiful if you are truly in touch with your inner beauty. However, if your concerns about your body image are actually interfering with your sexual relationship, and stopping you from expressing yourself to your full potential, then it is worth doing something about it.

And though most people do woman on top sex with the woman facing the man, you can try facing away from him. In this sexual position, the woman squats or kneels with her back to her partner.

Although there is less intimacy, because they are not able to see each other's faces, it can be an exciting variation to add to the sexual repertoire. The woman should lower herself carefully onto the penis so that it enters her vagina at a comfortable angle. Penetration can be very deep with any of the woman-on-top squatting positions, so care should be taken to avoid thrusting movements which may cause the penis to jar the cervix. To maintain the squatting position, the woman will need to be quite supple in her hips and legs; kneeling astride the partner may be easier for her. The advantage of this position is that the woman is free to stimulate her own clitoris, while the man surrenders to the pleasurable sensations of her movements.