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Tantric Sex Techniques and Positions - the basics How to Improve Your Choice Of Sex PositionsSome reasons for trying new or different sex positionsWhy would you choose new or different positions in which to enjoy your lovemaking? In some ways the answer to this question is obvious question: for fun, for a change, for greater sensation, for the sake of novelty, which can help keep things exciting.....and yet many people find they make love in the same positions over and over - because they have grown to enjoy one position more than any other (usually the missionary or some variation of the man on top) - so I invite you, if that description fits you, to consider whether or not you might be limiting your enjoyment of sex by sticking to one or a few positions. For example, a new position can give you a different view of sex - literally. Think about how the man on top differs from the rear entry in terms of visual stimulation - for both partners. It's quite clear that the rear entry packs a powerful erotic punch for a man; while in the man on top position you can see your partner's face and how he or she is enjoying or reacting to your lovemaking. Another variation between different sex positions is that some of them produce different tensions in the muscles of the vagina and so different degrees of pressure on the penis - and the good thing about this is that sex positions with less tension or pressure on the penis may make enable a man to last longer in bed than one where the pressure on the penis is greater. So if you know which positions make you experience premature ejaculation, you can switch to one in which you last longer and so make lovemaking a more enjoyable affair. Naturally, the same is true in reverse - if you want to speed things up, try switching to the man on top or the missionary position with the woman's legs raised, both of which tend to make men come quite quickly. They say that variety is the spice of life, and that is very true in the case of lovemaking. Like everything else, we get bored by the same stimulation over and over again - a new position provide both variety and excitement - and you may well find it makes lovemaking much more enjoyable for you both if you try something new from time to time. Of course, there are also some very practical reasons for switching positions during your lovemaking - you get tired, you need a rest, you want to take a break before you carry on making love.....considering the number of positions available to you as you enjoy coitus, there shouldn't be a problem finding some way to relax between bouts of lovemaking! I've mentioned several times on this website how changing sex positions can make things much more interesting from an emotional / psychological point of view. If you want a practical example of this, try switching between man on top and woman on top sex and see how those two variations make you feel. For a more dramatic example of sexual psychology, try the rear entry position and see what that does for the way you feel! (And ask your partner what these variations do for them.) In essence, we might see the man on top positions as mirroring the patriarchal nature of western society while the woman on top variants are symbolic of women recapturing their sexual power. (Not to mention the fact that these variations can feel very good!) You may also notice as you switch position that some of these sex positions make you feel very loving and connected to your partner, while other make you feel more physically sexual and less emotionally connected to each other - rear entry being the prime example of this. There's nothing wrong with either approach to making love, but it's always interesting to experience the variety of emotions that are associated with different ways to make love. If you're a little bit sexually inhibited, then trying different positions can be a liberating experience. Twisting, stretching, trying to make things fit together, and then seeing your penis pop out of her vagina unexpectedly, are all things which tend to bring the emotional inhibitions tumbling down: the more outrageous and bold your sexual moves, the more fun you might just find you have. Improving the missionary positionThis is the most popular sex position, and it also just happens to be the one with most variations. Below we list the most popular variations in order. Of course the basic reason the missionary or man on top position is so popular is that it is the most natural way of making love that we have as a species: the woman is comfortable on her back while being attended to by her partner, lying between her legs and supporting himself, which allows them to talk, look at each other lovingly or lustfully, see how they each respond to the lovemaking, and enjoy the natural intimacy that flows form this connection. The male partner also enjoys a degree of dominance, which is probably how most couples like to experience their lovemaking: but unfortunately, movement is somewhat restricted, especially for the woman. A thick pillow under the woman's bottom raises her hips and makes her vulva available for cunnilingus; while if the couple wish to make love in the same position, he can kneel and thrust easily (often easier if he has one leg out behind him and is kneeling on one knee only). From the basic missionary position, with a cushion under the woman's bottom, there are several easy improvements to be made: 1 The woman wraps her legs up and around the man's waist. 2 The woman places one leg on each of her partner's shoulders. 3 The woman lifts her legs in the air vertically and holds them wide open. If she then moves them energetically as she or her partner approach orgasm, the additional stimulation can be mind-blowing. 4 The woman places both her legs onto one of the man's shoulders. 5 The woman crosses her legs behind the man's legs 6 The woman brings her legs together and the man keeps his legs outside hers. This may help her reach orgasm, though penetration will not be as deep. 7 The woman crosses her legs in the yoga position known as the 'lotus' - this opens her vagina but stops her partner thrusting too deeply. 8 The woman lifts her legs and bends her knees, then puts her feet on her partner's hips. 9 The woman presses her legs against her partner's hips. Kama Sutra Sex Positions For Modern CouplesIntense sexual desire is something that we all experience from time to time. The urgent desire, the excitement of that sense of just having to have your partner at once, and above all, the sheer intensity of the passion that seemingly strikes out of nowhere, can all end up with us having sex wherever and whenever the urge takes us. And urgent sex can be great sex! The sheer intensity, the urgent passion, the overwhelming excitement, all these and more (like the excitement of doing it somewhere unexpected) contribute to a need for the instant fulfillment of desire. But what positions are good for this urgent sex? The Kama Sutra, which sometimes seems to have a reputation as a bit of a dull sex manual, was actually very frank and open about all kinds of sex and the positions suited to them. Indeed, it had a lot to say about how to read the signs of passion and arousal in your partner, so that you could both satisfy your desire quickly, and it also suggested a lot of positions that are supposedly good for great sex! Here, then, are the Kama Sutra's recommendations for sex positions for The Instant Fulfillment Of Desire! The Congress Of The Cow (rear entry sex with the man in a standing position, while the woman bends forward at the waist)All that needs to be exposed for this position are a couple's genitals. The woman can fling her skirt up over her buttocks, the man can pull his erect penis out of his pants, and sex can proceed pretty much instantly! Why the Kama Sutra called this position the congress of the cow is less clear, although in the text it makes reference to the man taking his partner in this position like a bull. The man enters his partner from behind, clasping her around the waist. She bends forward but supports herself on her hands, and with his support around her waist she is able to join in the thrusting action as her man plunges into her vagina. "The Cow Position" (sex with the woman kneeling on her hands and knees, while the man is kneeling behind her)Another position, which the Kama Sutra also calls the Cow Position, is rather like the one we know as doggy style, that is to say, rear entry with the woman kneeling on her hands and knees as her partner kneels behind her, his penis level with her buttocks as he enters her. It's another position for instant sex, for once again it requires only partial undressing. The Man Thrusts His Hammer (sex enjoyed as the man stands with the woman supported around his waist)This is a challenging sex position even for very fit people. But it's one that catches the imagination, for it seems exciting and arousing, a product perhaps of our fantasy about having sex in a public place, with the thrilling possibility of being caught. It certainly has an aura of naughtiness! But sex positions in which the woman is lifted up and held by the man as he thrusts into her often require additional support, for a man may not be strong enough to hold his partner for the duration of sex, unless he ejaculates very quickly! So it's better of the man leans back against a wall or table, while his partner puts her arms around his neck as she raises her legs and clasps them around his waist. She can even push against the wall behind him, giving herself support and something to thrust against at the same time. The man can support her with his hands under her buttocks, moving her on his penis as he thrusts, or the couple can take it in turns to thrust as they enjoy sex in this position. The three legged stool (the couple are standing for sex, and woman positions one leg around the man's waist)Because the woman keeps one leg on the ground, she is supporting her weight to a much greater degree than in the position above, and so sexual intercourse becomes a lot easier. The man, of course, has both of his feet on the floor, while the woman raises one leg so that her upper thigh is parallel to the floor and her knee is hooked around her man's thigh. Naturally, her vulva is more exposed to his erection. Even so, if they are different heights, she may have to stand on a book, box or perhaps on the bottom steps of a staircase to make it possible for her man to penetrate her. Squatting, sitting or standing sex, with the woman in the man's lapThe Kama Sutra called this sex position Shakti's dance. It can be used for fast and furious sex, or slow and meditative sex, equally well. Basically, if the man squats, the woman climbs into his lap and inserts his penis into her vagina as she does so; if they are standing, she clasps him around the waist with her legs and around his neck with her arms, and rides him as he carries her weight. (This can be very nasty if she slips, bending his penis as she falls, so make sure you're both strong enough to keep going if you do try it.) And if you do get tired, it is possible to lower the woman's bottom onto a suitable piece of furniture - a table or chair, perhaps, while the man remains standing and thrusts into her. Advice for men who have sexual problemsThere are three main male sexual problems: erectile dysfunction, male orgasmic disorder, also known as male anorgasmia, and premature ejaculation. All of these can impact on the sexual relationship between a couple, although all of them are more or less easily treated. One of the main reasons why a man has erection problems of any kind is that his sexual arousal is too dependent on fantasy, and he's in his head rather than his body, which is the true source of sexual arousal. To cure erectile dysfunction, it's often helpful to guide a man back to his physical arousal. This requires him to retrain his sexual responses so that his erection is not as dependent on fantasy. The exercises offered on this website can cure erectile dysfunction. If you are having difficulty ejaculating during sexual intercourse, you may have a condition called delayed ejaculation. This can be treated at home by using a series of exercises which are designed to retrain your body to develop the appropriate level of sexual arousal that gradually increases during intercourse, until you peak at the right moment and enjoy an orgasm and ejaculation inside your partner. 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