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Kama Sutra Sex Positions For Modern Couples

Intense sexual desire is something that we all experience from time to time. The urgent desire, the excitement of that sense of just having to have your partner at once, and above all, the sheer intensity of the passion that seemingly strikes out of nowhere, can all end up with us having sex wherever and whenever the urge takes us.

And urgent sex can be great sex! The sheer intensity, the urgent passion, the overwhelming excitement, all these and more (like the excitement of doing it somewhere unexpected) contribute to a need for the instant fulfillment of desire.

But what positions are good for this urgent sex? The Kama Sutra, which sometimes seems to have a reputation as a bit of a dull sex manual, was actually very frank and open about all kinds of sex and the positions suited to them. Indeed, it had a lot to say about how to read the signs of passion and arousal in your partner, so that you could both satisfy your desire quickly, and it also suggested a lot of positions that are supposedly good for great sex!

Here, then, are the Kama Sutra's recommendations for sex positions for The Instant Fulfillment Of Desire!

The Congress Of The Cow (rear entry sex with the man in a standing position, while the woman bends forward at the waist)

All that needs to be exposed for this position are a couple's genitals. The woman can fling her skirt up over her buttocks, the man can pull his erect penis out of his pants, and sex can proceed pretty much instantly! Why the Kama Sutra called this position the congress of the cow is less clear, although in the text it makes reference to the man taking his partner in this position like a bull. The man enters his partner from behind, clasping her around the waist. She bends forward but supports herself on her hands, and with his support around her waist she is able to join in the thrusting action as her man plunges into her vagina.

"The Cow Position" (sex with the woman kneeling on her hands and knees, while the man is kneeling behind her)

Another position, which the Kama Sutra also calls the Cow Position, is rather like the one we know as doggy style, that is to say, rear entry with the woman kneeling on her hands and knees as her partner kneels behind her, his penis level with her buttocks as he enters her. It's another position for instant sex, for once again it requires only partial undressing.

The Man Thrusts His Hammer (sex enjoyed as the man stands with the woman supported around his waist)

This is a challenging sex position even for very fit people. But it's one that catches the imagination, for it seems exciting and arousing, a product perhaps of our fantasy about having sex in a public place, with the thrilling possibility of being caught. It certainly has an aura of naughtiness! But sex positions in which the woman is lifted up and held by the man as he thrusts into her often require additional support, for a man may not be strong enough to hold his partner for the duration of sex, unless he ejaculates very quickly!

So it's better of the man leans back against a wall or table, while his partner puts her arms around his neck as she raises her legs and clasps them around his waist. She can even push against the wall behind him, giving herself support and something to thrust against at the same time. The man can support her with his hands under her buttocks, moving her on his penis as he thrusts, or the couple can take it in turns to thrust as they enjoy sex in this position.

The three legged stool (the couple are standing for sex, and woman positions one leg around the man's waist)

Because the woman keeps one leg on the ground, she is supporting her weight to a much greater degree than in the position above, and so sexual intercourse becomes a lot easier. The man, of course, has both of his feet on the floor, while the woman raises one leg so that her upper thigh is parallel to the floor and her knee is hooked around her man's thigh. Naturally, her vulva is more exposed to his erection. Even so, if they are different heights, she may have to stand on a book, box or perhaps on the bottom steps of a staircase to make it possible for her man to penetrate her.

Squatting, sitting or standing sex, with the woman in the man's lap

The Kama Sutra called this sex position Shakti's dance. It can be used for fast and furious sex, or slow and meditative sex, equally well. Basically, if the man squats, the woman climbs into his lap and inserts his penis into her vagina as she does so; if they are standing, she clasps him around the waist with her legs and around his neck with her arms, and rides him as he carries her weight. (This can be very nasty if she slips, bending his penis as she falls, so make sure you're both strong enough to keep going if you do try it.) And if you do get tired, it is possible to lower the woman's bottom onto a suitable piece of furniture - a table or chair, perhaps, while the man remains standing and thrusts into her.

Advice for men who have sexual problems

There are three main male sexual problems: erectile dysfunction, male orgasmic disorder, also known as male anorgasmia, and premature ejaculation. All of these can impact on the sexual relationship between a couple, although all of them are easily treated at home using self-help techniques. To start with erectile dysfunction, one of the main reasons why this develops is that a man's sexual arousal is too dependent on fantasy, and he's in his head rather than his body, which is the true source of sexual arousal. To cure erectile dysfunction, it's often helpful to guide a man back to his physical arousal. This requires him to retrain his sexual responses so that his erection is not as dependent on fantasy. The exercises offered on this website can cure erectile dysfunction.

If the inability to ejaculate is troubling you during sexual intercourse, you have male orgasmic disorder. This can be treated at home by using a series of exercises which are designed to retrain your body to develop the appropriate level of sexual arousal that gradually increases during intercourse, until you peak at the right moment and enjoy an orgasm and ejaculation inside your partner.

Finally, premature ejaculation, which is the most common male sexual disorder, is easily treated. Treatment for premature ejaculation at home is straightforward, though it does require the co-operation of your partner. You can gradually desensitize your response to sexual stimulation so that you do not ejaculate as quickly, or with as  little sexual stimulation as may be required to induce orgasm and ejaculation at the moment.

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