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Sex Positions Most Likely To Help A Woman Reach Orgasm During IntercourseModern porn can make both men and women feel useless when it comes to making love. Men think they need to match the performance of studs who thrust away for hours until their woman collapses in a sweat-soaked orgasmic heap, but only after six mind-blowing orgasms in a row. Women are subject to images of moaning orgasmic goddesses who reach orgasm as their insatiable lover thrusts deep inside their vaginas while he controls their every move and takes them to sexual bliss. At least, that's what you might think if you get your ideas of sex from most porno films. By the way, pornography does much to ruin sex for many people. Men with massive erections dispassionately using women for their own sexual pleasure is definitely not what sex is like for most people. Both sexes struggle with all kinds of sexual problems, ranging from delayed ejaculation in men to the common complaint of women that they can't reach orgasm. There are effective self help treatment programs available to deal with these sexual problems and issues. In reality, of course, as many of us suspect from our own sex lives and lovemaking, is that most men ejaculate far too soon, and many don't know how to control their ejaculation - or they've long since given it up as a hopeless cause - while most women never reach orgasm during sexual intercourse. Maybe you think there's something the matter with you if you're a man who can't make love for ages or you're a woman who wants to know how to reach orgasm during intercourse, but research has shown these things are actually the way it is for the majority of men and women when they make love. One survey, by VulvaVelvet.org, showed that less than 20% of women are able to reach orgasm during intercourse without any additional extra clitoral stimulation. Other surveys have produced similar results: as long as 20 years ago, Shere Hite's surveys revealed the fact that only one woman in four was able to reach orgasm during intercourse without some clitoral stimulation. Other women only come if they had a helping hand on their clitoris, and some never come at all! And nothing seems to have changed as time has gone by! But perhaps this is missing the point. Maybe we should be asking, "Does this lack of orgasm during intercourse matter?" I suppose the answer is "yes" if a woman wants to enjoy orgasm during intercourse. There are plenty of women for whom sex is about connection and affection during sex, and they really desire more caressing, oral sex and intimacy before vaginal penetration. If a woman has an orgasm, it may not matter whether she has it during oral sex or foreplay before penetration, or during vaginal intercourse, but if she wants it during sex, then the solution lies in her man taking a different approach to lovemaking and the couple knowing the techniques and sex positions that are more likely to make her reach orgasm - and the man being skilled enough as a lover to make sure it happens. So, here are some sex positions ideas that may help. It's fair to say that most women need clitoral stimulation of some kind, either by hand or vibrator, to reach orgasm, whether that is during sex or in any other situation (oral sex, masturbation). While some women can come from vaginal thrusting alone, most do not, and vaginal stimulation depends on the man not ejaculating soon after lovemaking starts, as generally happens, so that the G spot receives enough stimulation to make her orgasm. In this section, the sex positions which can help a woman to reach orgasm during intercourse are discussed. First there is the familiar man on top position. You'll have observed that normally the penis doesn't reach the clitoris as a man thrusts his penis in his partner's vagina. But the conventional man on top position can be modified so that there's more clitoral stimulation, and this is done using the so-called Coital Alignment Technique. After the man penetrates his partner, with him on top, he moves his body higher up, with the result that his penis angles into his partner's vagina from a sharper angle. The bottom area of his penis will then be pressed against the general area of her clitoris. When the couple are in this position during sex, he doesn't thrust. Instead, he more or less lies on his partner with his body shifted upwards on hers, and the lovers rock their hips against each other until they both reach orgasm. The object of the exercise is all about clitoral stimulation. A couple can also try this the other way round with the woman on top, which is a better solution if the man has a large or heavy body. The next sex position for achieving orgasm during intercourse is the woman on top position. This can lead to orgasm for a woman since she is in control - she can change the pace of thrusting, adjust the angle of her body, and make sure the depth of her lover's penetration is such that she gets the exact stimulation on her clitoris and vulva which is most likely to help her attain orgasm. The same idea but with the woman facing reversed - the other way, away from her man - is a position known as the "Reverse Cowgirl". You can see the name comes from an allusion to riding your partner during sex (as in "Ride 'em cowgirl!") There are another two sex positions to consider if you're into orgasmic intercourse. If doggy style (also known as rear entry) sex is your ball game, so to speak, there's ample opportunity in this position for either partner to stimulate the woman's clitoris during sex. Timing it so that the woman comes before her man reaches orgasm is crucial, so he may need to reduce the rate of thrusting or stop thrusting altogether during intercourse to allow she can achieve her orgasm. If you time it right, you may well be able to reach your orgasms simultaneously. And last but not least, in this list of sex positions for orgasm, is the side by side position with the partners facing each other. This is very much more romantic than the rear entry position, which a fair number of women think is a bit impersonal; it also allows for gentle, slow lovemaking as well as faster thrusting. Either member of the couple can easily reach down and play with her clitoris, keeping the speed of thrusting slow and steady until it's time to climax so that the man does not reach orgasm too quickly. If he suffers from premature ejaculation, this may be helpful in preventing premature ejaculation and helping him to develop control over his ejaculation. An article by a woman suggesting how men might improve sex for women Sure, I know men have it difficult. Women are impossible to understand, much less please. You never know what it is you should be doing. Women can be bloody picky, for certain. It can be very scary, too, when a rational woman suddenly freaks out on some benign issue. And those men who act like they're caring and considerate, well done! But please just fuck me! Honestly, I appreciate your kindness. I really like the fact that you want to take things slowly. Sure, we all like emotional connection, but forgodssake, just FUCK ME. We've been to dinner, we've enjoyed drinks. We've danced the night away. We've been hand in hand under the stars and kissed romantically. Now I'm wearing a low cut shirt and you've been staring at my breasts all night. Nowforfuckssake, I want you to fuck me. But when we get down to it, please take charge. Yes, just fuck me! Trust me, I'll get involved, and I won't lie there like a log! I don't want to have to put your hand into my panties. That doesn't feel so good! In fact, now we've been kissing for over an hour and you keep touching my ass, I really want you to get down to it and fuck me! Let's move things forward! Get on top of me. Start dry humping like a good man should. And don't gently suck my nipples and then ease off when I get all excited - I don't want you to be coy right now. It's not what WE want. OK, I know it can be challenging. Some sisters out there make fucking really difficult. So, here are some useful tips. Simple tips, for new age men who may have forgotten what it means to really fuck like a man: 1. You can take charge! And while some women will say that just isn't right, you can always check this out - is a woman starts to push back, ask her whether things are moving too fast. If it looks like they are, all you have to say is something like "I'm sorry - you look so fucking delicious. I'll go more slowly!" Otherwise, skilfully move onwards.... If you start kissing a woman, she looks like she's enjoying it, and before long, you're rolling on the floor with her skirt up, and you lying on top of her, it's not the moment to roll off her onto your back and start stroking the top of her head like a wuss! Seriously, get a goddamn pair of balls. You're the man. Act like you know what that means! 2. Please learn to respect the clitoris, a different thing for every woman, which means you may have to check what it is that she likes. Do not just wiggle your fingers around her vulva like you're trying to tickle her to death. Do not drum your fingers against her labia like you're irritated by the local 7/11 check out operator. And above all, don't push the clit like a doorbell at some house you want to get inside. Here's what you do: four fingers with firm and smooth gentle pressure against the outside of her pussy, pressing flat on it and moving slightly to check out what she likes. Worst of all is to stab at her pussy with a single finger. Sure, she knows you want to get in there, and she probably wants you in there, too, but maybe not just yet! Ask her if you're stuck on where to go and what to do. "How do you like it?" - you know what, it's such a simple question, she'll most likely tell you straight out. If she acts like she doesn't know, then a question like "Do you like pressure? Is your clit sensitive?" Might do the trick! Remember that the clitoris is different in every case - so forget anything you think you learned with your last partner. 3. Most women like to be fucked, and fucked by a real man. Sure, some women out there say they want to "make love" every time - with sweetness and light, with loads of eye contact and lovely kisses - but you know what? Most women like to be thrusted and thrusted well, pounded hard enough to give them a chance of enjoying the sensation of having your penis thrusting against their G spot. They like a good, solid hammering. And remember that when a woman is thrusting wildly against you, what she most likely wants is for you to hold down her arms, grab her hips, maybe even to push her legs way above her head, and fuck her ever deeper and ever harder. 4. A little roughness can be nice. Come on men, you know some women like their hair pulled. And some women like to be spanked. Start with light, full handed slaps to the part of her ass that she sits on - see what happens and carry on accordingly. Just don't make the mistake of bending her over one knee and telling her she's a naughty girl.....and don't forget women are not so delicate as some would have you believe, so don't worry about breaking her. 5. It's OK for you to make lots of noise. If you're fucking a woman, and she's crying out and begging for more, harder, whatever, saying your name and so on, you have a duty to respond in kind. You can half grunt, half yell? That's HOT. Shout her name (assuming you know it) like she's giving you the best time ever, or at least groan against her neck when you're on top. You don't have to grunt like an animal.....but if you keep completely quiet, she's going to worry about it. 6. Many women like dirty talk, as well as a bit of grunting. If you'd like to get dirty talk going, ask her is the way you're fucking her good? If she looks enthusiastic, carry on: "I love fucking you. God, you look so fucking hot." Is she still looking enthusiastic? Try telling her how nice her tits are. If she doesn't look like she appreciates that, telling her "I want to fuck your hot wet cunt!" might not be such a good idea. If she responds well, try something like: "Wow! Your pussy is SO tight." "You're so wet - are you wet because you like the idea of my cock ramming you?" "I'm going to come inside you. I'm going to fill up your hot wet cunt." Even if you're wearing a condom, women love hearing that! If these look like they're being received well, move on to "sexy little bitch" and "dirty whore". Tread carefully, but go ahead and see what happens! 6. You're not obliged to go down on a woman, but then again, she's not obliged to choke on your huge manhood. Don't miss one and expect the other. If you do go down on her, tell her how nice her pussy is - nothing else - don't start analysing the length of her labia, the color of her cunt, her waxing job or her full bush! 7. Do not complain about condoms. They hurt a woman more than they hurt you. But we don't want to get pregnant, and neither of us wants to catch anything, right? Don't start the old bull about how you don't feel anything, how you can't come when you're wearing one, and so on. You're a man, you can surely come with one on? If not, then satisfy your woman and work out how you want her to get you off when it's time for you to shoot your load. 8. And do you know how much women like to see you come? Watching semen shoot out of you is one of the most fun things EVER. However, you can't just assume that she wants it on her face, on her body or in her hair. She may do but you can't just assume that. And since the experience of seeing you come is so rewarding for a woman, let her see it if possible - or feel you coming with enthusiasm if you happen to be inside her at the time! "I'm going to come - how do you like it?" is a fair question that shouldn't unman you! The author writes: To clarify, some people have brought up issues in response to this, so let me say that I don't mean to suggest all women like to be treated like whores. But most women I know say that they like sex rougher than their men give it to them. Rough does NOT equal abuse and bondage. What's more, all this is for the bedroom and does not mean that she wants you to boss her around and treat her like a piece of ass. And some women have responded that they don't like it rough and what the hell is this all about? Well, they're in the minority. But of course all women need to be open and honest and straight forward about their sexual desires and sexual limits. This means asking for more when you want it, and saying no when you don't want something.
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