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Side by side sex positions illustrated and explained
Side by side positions are wonderful for slow romantic lovemaking. It is often easiest to start from a more conventional position like the missionary and then roll over onto your sides. This is especially true for the position shown in the first photo above. This is a wonderfully intimate and connected position in which the partners can lie back and gaze into each other's eyes, or embrace closely and kiss, or just lie still while they enjoy the sensations of closeness. In this face to face position, the man can kiss and nibble his partner's breasts and she can see him do it, which can be a powerful erotic stimulus for her. In addition, the partners can touch each other's chest, torso, face and back, which can increase their sense of intimacy. It is a position in which the man can thrust gently and last for a long time before he comes - movement of his hips is slightly restricted, but he can achieve good penetration, and there is no danger of him slipping out while he thrusts because his partner can wrap her legs around him and hold him inside her while the lovemaking continues. All in all, this is an excellent position and highly recommended. The rear entry side by side position shown in the second photo is often called the spoons - like a pair of spoons with the bowls together. Some men like to go to sleep after lovemaking while they are still inside their partner - this is the position to do it, curled up together and resting after sex. It is an exciting position for the man, with the suggestion of taking his woman from behind, but it may not produce as much sensation as some others. It is intimate and allows good body contact, though, and it can therefore be a good start to lovemaking. By moving slightly as shown in the third photo, the couple can come up with any number of variations on a theme - some of which will, as always, produce more sensation than others for the man or the woman or both. A woman's viewpoint One of my favorite sex games is changing position: making a sexual encounter more than just him-on-top, her-on-top, doggy-style or whatever. Don't get me wrong, I do love the man-on-top sex position: feeling him on top of me, feeling his weight, with just that little frisson of being dominated (only by a loving, gentle, trusted partner, mind). It's a wonderful position for the initial coming together (so to speak!) and we can kiss and look at each other, and my hands are free to caress his back, bottom and even his balls with a bit of stretching. I can vary the position slightly by moving my legs: either clasped around his waist (that really excites him!), straight out, bent at the knees (allowing slightly deeper penetration) or very straight and almost together which means my thighs add pressure to his penis and balls. This last position usually means a bit of wriggling around by both man and woman to get it right, but it's worth it! However, rather than stay in the same sex position throughout our lovemaking, what I really like after a while is for us to roll on our sides - and it doesn't matter which way we turn, since we can vary it. We can see each other even better and I can reach round much more easily to find his balls and even caress the base of his penis as it slides in and out of me. I find it amazing that side by side sex positions are usually recommended only for fat people or pregnant women. Believe me, sex in this position is worth a try! And it's really easy once you get the knack. First of all, the woman needs to raise her legs, knees bent, until her thighs are level with the man's waist. This is important, unless you like crushed thighs! Now he needs to thrust deeply and hold his penis inside her. Now embrace each other firmly, decide which way you're going to roll (after you've done this a few times, and if you and your partner are closely tuned into each other, you'll probably find you don't have to think about this) and over you go! The woman's thigh which is underneath should feel quite comfortable if it is at her partner's waist level. If it's feeling squashed, simply adjust yourselves until it feels OK. Once you're comfortable, you'll be amazed how much variation you can bring to this sexual position. Let go of each other with your arms, and lean back a bit. This feels almost like sex in a scissors position since you are still closely joined, and it gives you a very good view of his penis pushing into your yoni. My man gets so excited by this, we sometimes have to pause for a few seconds to stop him coming straight away! Even more exciting is when I raise my leg high in the air (you can hold it there with your hand if raising your leg without support feels too strenuous). This position really opens out the whole vulva-penis-balls scenario and we can see the base of his penis glistening with my juices as he moves in and out of me. We can take turns to reach down and feel my hot, wet labia and of course it's easy to stroke my clitoris in this position too. Wow - I feel excited just writing about it! You'll find this position allows better visual scope all round than the man-on-top. It's wonderful for a sense of deep, spiritual connection during really exciting physical sex. You can talk, smile, look lovingly into each others' eyes, and if you are skilled in such matters you can send beautiful energy between your heart chakras as well as your sexual centers. It's also a very restful position for end of the day pre-sleep lovemaking when neither of you feels particularly like strenuous chandelier swinging. And you will find that even very small movements are deliciously sensitive. No wonder this position is one of our favorites! A man's viewpoint We had been having wonderful sex in the most common positions for several years before we discovered side by side sex. Maybe because our sex was always so wonderful we hadn't really explored anything other than man on top, woman on top and rear entry positions. But for some reason one day we decided to experiment; from the man on top position we rolled over onto our sides and, after getting my partner's legs in the right position (to avoid crushing them) we enjoyed a wonderful experience of lovemaking, about which you can find more on the side by side sex positions page. This isn't to say that side by side sex is better than man on top sex; not at all, it's simply to suggest that experimenting with different positions can be worthwhile. As far as man on top is concerned, it's another of my favorites. I love the sense of dominating my partner when I'm feeling my masculine power; I love the intimacy and connection when we're making love in a slow, emotionally connected way. The great thing about man on top - the bread and butter of sex, as one commentator described it - is that a man can experience the intimacy he may not feel in everyday life. Think about it: there's plenty of skin to skin contact, there's the ability to gaze into your partner's eyes and watch her reaction as she feels that ever-special moment of penetration (the supreme act of love for a woman), there's the incredible sense of warmth and wetness as her vagina envelops your penis, and there's the profound satisfaction of deep thrusting and, of course, ejaculation. For the female partner, there's the ability to lie back and enjoy it without having to make too much effort - though of course if she wants to thrust she can do so, albeit in a more limited way than in other positions. In the early days of our lovemaking I used to come quite quickly, which is one disadvantage of the man on top position - the deep hip thrusts a man can make tend to accelerate his progress towards orgasm. But as time has gone by this has become much less of a problem, and my ability to spin out our lovemaking has greatly improved, so that my partner is now able to enjoy the sense of having me inside her for much longer. What else about man on top sex? A few random thoughts: If you're lying on top of her rather than using one of the kneeling variations shown in the photos above, don't shout too loudly when you come, or your might deafen her! And if you're supported on your elbows, knees and arms, you shouldn't have much muscle strain as you make love in this position, which means that you don't have to worry too much about the physical effort of sex (compared, say, to the standing or even the rear entry positions), so you can focus much more on your actual sexual pleasure. This is often very great because man on top positions fulfill the male urge to dominate your partner, pin her down and have her just where you want her! I've found at times that the urge to thrust has been incredibly strong - almost irresistible - when I've been holding back so as to control my ejaculation. I think this demonstrates the deep instinctual urges that are aroused - and hopefully fulfilled - by man on top sex. In general though we find the kneeling variations of man on top are a lot less satisfying than the ones where both partners are basically lying down, though this may have something to do with our lack of flexibility and age! I would guess that for men who have a short penis it's difficult to get good penetration in the kneeling positions anyway. Since the woman is in a fairly relaxed position in man on top sex she has the freedom to play with her man's nipples, which some men find highly sensuous; and if she's so inclined, she can whisper dirty talk in your ear (as in "fuck my hot wet cunt", I mean)! This can be intensely erotic and make a man come pretty quickly if he's on the edge anyway. If she wraps her legs around her partner's buttocks and pulls him in towards her, while thrusting her hips and giving him verbal encouragement, the result can be a pretty powerful orgasm! |
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