The best sex positionsIn spite of all the pictures or drawings you may have seen in countless books depicting hundreds of sexual positions, the truth is there are only six. Everything else is just a variation on a theme. Granted, some of those variations feel incredible and it is certainly worth your while to experiment. There are only eighty-eight keys on a piano, but that doesn't mean people won't continue to create new and beautiful melodies with those same keys throughout eternity. Couples typically use two to three positions during one lovemaking session, moving from one position to another before they finish. Nevertheless, I don't want you thinking that there is something wrong with you or your lover because you haven't had intercourse in fifty or sixty different ways. I am not suggesting you have to become a world-class gymnast in the bedroom. You don't have to. While I do encourage variety in all forms of sexual intimacy, the purpose is to push back the boundaries of self-imposed limitations and find your ultimate pleasure. Sex position 1: Woman on top (also known as female superior)In the female superior position, you are on top during intercourse, usually straddling him with the bulk of your weight distributed evenly between both of your knees. This can be done either facing him or facing away from him. Another variation on this position would be for you to squat over him with your feet flat on either side. Many women prefer the female-superior position because it allows for deeper penetration and allows you to control the speed of thrust since you are the person doing the thrusting. It also works well if you are much taller than your man. However, this does require a lot more work on your part. Men tend to enjoy this position a lot
because it provides them with a good look at your body. They love to
see a woman's breasts move up and down with each thrust and see her
hair falling or hitting them in the chest or face. Keep in mind that
men are visual creatures and they love to watch. A male magazine
editor from San Francisco says, "I knew this would be my favorite
position from the time I saw a porn film when I was fourteen when this
woman in a big skirt lowered herself onto a man. When my wife lowers
herself onto me, it takes all my
Some men may be critical of women's bodies outside the bedroom, but during sex their women's bodies are beautiful to them. As one man told me, "By the time I'm with a woman, I want to be intimate with her entire body." Tips To increase the odds of coming during intercourse or coming with him, have your clitoris stimulated to the point where you feel orgasm is imminent, then get -into the woman-superior position. If you thrust, there is a good chance you'll be able to reach orgasm with him inside of you. Another way to increase the heat between you and your partner is to lower yourself onto him starting at the top of his head, moving your whole body down his body very slowly. Let him see, feel, and taste all of you as you make your way to his feet and then back up to his penis; then lower yourself onto his penis. He can also caress your derriere and guide your hips with his hands. You can reach back and play with his testicles. Facing him gives you the advantage of being able to make eye contact during intercourse; also, he can be caressing your breasts at the same time you're thrusting. While you're on top and facing him, try reaching back with your hands and gently play with his testicles, or try to softly pinch or kiss his nipples. Many men say that having their nipples stimulated drives them wild. If you're facing away from him, you will feel him against the front wall of your vagina (the G-spot zone). Sex Position 2: Man on top (also known as male superior)This position is the so-called missionary position, the most common position for making love. The woman lies on her back with the man lying over her or slightly to the side of her. Men like it because they can control the depth of penetration as well as the speed of the thrust, according to how far away from orgasm they are. Women like it because there is more body contact than in the other positions. While the other positions are perhaps considered more erotic, this one is the most romantic. Kissing and hugging are easily done in this position and many women say it makes them feel safe and protected. Tips When you're engaged in the male-superior position, there is also a way to involve more of your body than just the genital area. If you haven't tried this, it's a lot of fun. What you do is sandwich his penis between your breasts. By lifting them up and together, you create a tunnel similar to the vagina. He'll thrust his penis between your breasts and orgasm right there on you. This is also known as giving a woman a pearl necklace. By maneuvering your hands between his legs, you can tenderly squeeze and release his testicles in rhythm to his thrusting. Some men have been known to describe this move as pure ecstasy. Massage or insert your finger into his anus while he's thrusting; this has been known to send a man over the edge. (Remember to remove your finger slowly and gently.) For men with very large penises, try lying with your legs flat against the bed; this will increase your tightness, as well as prevent him from penetrating too deeply. For more genital contact and penetration, wrap your legs around his hips, increasing your pelvic tilt. You can give your partner the feeling of sucking him into you by exhaling deeply just before he enters you; then tighten your PC muscle and breathe in as he enters you. Place your knees over his shoulders to increase penetration and stimulation of the back of the vaginal wall (G-spot territory). Sex position 3: Side by side sexFor this position, the man and woman are on their sides with their legs entwined like scissors. You can be facing each other or he can be in back of you. The beauty of side-by-side is that most men can thrust for a long time in this position without climaxing. It provides couples the opportunity to make their intimate encounter last. And because penetration is not as deep in this position, women who have lovers with exceptionally large penises say that intercourse is more comfortable for them. Much like in the male-superior position, kissing and hugging are almost inevitable here. A forty-one year-old male investment banker from London recalls this experience: "Our first time together we had gone camping and slept in a sleeping bag. I'm 6'3" and she's 5'6", so it's easier this way. As she says, sometimes, she can disappear underneath me." Perhaps the best thing about making love side-by-side, however, is that it is the one position that lends itself to falling asleep comfortably in each others' arms afterwards. A sixty-two-year-old award-winning actress says, "I love having my husband behind me. He kind of scoops me in towards him. He has a huge penis, which can sometimes hurt. This way he can have the head inside me and my thighs stimulate the rest of his shaft. After we're done, we fall asleep with him nestled behind me, one arm cupping my breast." Tips With the man behind, he can also stimulate your clitoris. Tightening your thighs can increase friction. Rear entry in a side-to-side position can be good for pregnant women, as she will be able to support her abdomen and he can play with her full breasts.
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